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writes:i have been going out with my boyfriend about 6 months now and i stay at his every weekend. every weekend he drinks too much (like lads do) but he always tends to upset me. i don't think he does it intentionally and he says he loves me but i dont feel like he takes me seriously, when i try to tell him how i feel. Also, he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong! i dont want to finish with him and i think i am bein too soft. what should i do plzz help!! thanx Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve +, writes (2 June 2007):
 When you go out together he should be concentrating on YOU and what makes YOU happy, not slugging back the beer/spirits and getting smashed! I would stop staying with him at weekends (he's only having his cake and eat it after all) and tell him that's the way it's going to be until he gets his priorities right. Sounds to me as if he has a problem with the booze. It's okay to go and have a drink with the lads but if he respects and cares for you at all then he wouldn't want to get drunk every time you're around UNLESS of course there's a problem with alcohol there.
Eve
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (2 June 2007):
 I know how you feel. My ex smoked too much cannabis because she had issues she refused to deal with and she refused to see any other point of view. At the end of the day your feelings and your opinions should count for something and if the person who is supposed to love you cant see this than i would consider the relationship and its future.
With any drug it helps to block out feelings and any stress, but this should be used in moderation and not to solve your problems until the next weekend.
If this isnt the case and he is just being selfish about his drinking, then he needs to see where this will lead.
Your feelings can not be ignored forever and you will if not already start to resent him and you know where that will end up.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (2 June 2007):
 hey hun yer i no what you mean boys/men always drink too much my ex finished with me coz i cared too much he drunk too much all time. they only advice i can give u is let him get on with it tell him it upsets u if he comes up with 'this is me' u may just have to deal with its not fair on u but if u like this guy as much as u say u do than stay with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007): I know exactly how you feel, my boyfriend is the exact same way. If he does not care to listen to you, that is your sign, break up with him.
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