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writes:I was just wondering if anyone would know what to do if they had a boyfriend that was always drinking going out all weekend even though we have been together 6 years now and we have a 2 year old daughter and im 5 months pregnant and he keeps saying he wants to marry me but i think its more of a lock down because he knows i dont want to get married im only young hes always been like this do you think i should just get rid of him some one please help thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Mia Rio +, writes (30 May 2008):
your exactly right and remember marriage is just a ring on your finger that doesnt change who he is. it does seem like he has drinking problem. I would give him the ultimatum of its me and the kids or your drink and see how he reacts. Remember you are still young you dont need to be tied down with someone who cant spend time with his family.
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reader, B-NaneR  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 I dont think you should leave him just like that. Its obvious that he may have a drinking problem. You should talk to him about it and how you feel about it. Try and work through it if you really love him and if he does have a drinking problem then get him some help. It really wouldnt be right just to leave and then there are 2 kids that will grow up without a father. Another thing, about that marrage thing. Why wont you get married? You already have 2 kids with the guy (well one on the way) and you have already made a huge commitment there and marrage is not that big of a deal, just if your not sure if your going to stay with him. And i can say that you are not too young, i have 4 sets of friends that are either already married or engaged. one of my friends is 18 and she just got married. the others are 20 and 21. You cant really put an age limit on it just if you can garentee that you want to stay. And when you are ready. You cant push marrage and its not very nice that he keeps saying that he wants to marry you when he knows how you feel about it.So i just hope things work out for the best and what ever is the best for you and your children. I wish the best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): If he has always been like this then what has changed now? He must of been like this when you fell pregnant the first time, and yet you have gone on to have another, why? The outcome is up to you. Have a chat with him and explain that this cannot go on, you just have had enough, but to be fair, if he started out like this, then i cannot see him changing. You then have to decide if you want your future to be like this but stuck in the house with two kids! OR one of you leave the partnership and move on. This is no example for him to be showing his kids. You say you are young, is he the same age as you? I think if you two stay together then you are going to have a lifetime of misery if he doesnt change, talk to him.
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