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writes:i am a young female aged 17, i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we are very much in love, we see each other every single day, and stay at each others house every night, we are very close, but i work through the day while he goes out with his mates but he dosen't allow me to see my mates and makes me feel guilty. we argue quite a lot and he can get quit aggresive but then when we don't it's absoloutely amazing.shoud i get rid of him? Reply to this Question
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reader, A Cappella  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Anyone who loves you doesn't want to cut you off from other people who love you. He's insecure and controlling -- this could lead to abuse. I think you'd be happier in a different relationship. Good luck hon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Don't argue with him. Make arrangements to go out with your other friends once a week. If he complains tell him, that you have no intention of cutting off people that are important to you. Tell him you need to see the people you love regularly and it is something he needs to accept because it is non negoitable. You love him, yes of course you do, but you love (and are loved) by other people too.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (13 May 2008):
Yes you should get rid of your bf. Why? because this is an unhealthy relationship and you are in danger.
Its an abusive relationship. Hes controlling. Hes trying to cut you off from your friends. Abusers do this, so when there abuse gets even worst, you feel liek you have no friends left that you can go to, for support. Therefor you have noone to go to for advice , so there one is there for you, to tell you to get the hell out of this relationship.
He shouldnt be making you feel guilty. You ahve the RIGHT to see your friends just as he has the right to see his. There cant be one rule for him and another for you, thats double standards.
You said hes aggressive...that isnt good at all. He should be respecting you, not being aggressive towards you. I am wondering if he is agressive verbally and/or physically? either way, even if its just one of them, that is NOT OK and not acceptable. You deserve so so so much more!!!
You may think that right now the relationship isntt that bad and its worth holding onto cuz u love him, but trust me, relationships like this just get worst and worst. and love isnt enough to make a relationship work and you shoudl never stay wit ha guy jsut bcause you love him if hes hurting you.
you deserve to haev a guy who loves you AND who respects you. this isnt the guy who can give this to you.
please leave him!!!!
check out this website, it could be very useful-
http://www.dvirc.org.au/whenlove/
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