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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi...now i am in a bad situation. i knew a guy for 3 months then he left back to his country. we really had a wonderful time together and really want to keep on our relationship. on our last day we talked, first he afraid that we are not gonna make it because of the distance. i just gave him my idea that i dont need any commitment between us since we both are still have a good feeling to each other and let's the time proof us. he agreed to do that. then 2 weeks after he arrived home i felt sth wrong cuz he did not pick up the phone and kinda quiet. I tried not to think too much cuz i knew he just got back from traveling over a year got back to his real world and he must has a lot of things to do and on his mind. so i just email asking him cuz i dont want to make him uncomfortable. he replied me that he is trying to forget about me. he said he did think a lot that he did not want this, he cant live with this situation that we cannot see each other and the distance thing. he dont want a relationship over the phone, internet, or skype...he wanna see me. just because we cannot see each other. when i hear that i just feel like all my hope is gone.i even did plan to go visit him once we are still talk and in a good relationship this year. i dont know i just believe that i have hope and wanna try it my best once we both still have each other but once anybody find a better match so just tel each oher the truth. seriously i did not expect us into a relationship i just want us to walk slow and take time with each other to learn each other. and i just have hope that one day we will get back together again i am willing to do anything to make us together again just wait for the right time. no matter we make it or not but at least we have try it and just follow the feeling. he said once he still feel like we are in a relationship so he get cold feet to talk to me over the phone because even we talk but we cannot see each other. sincerely i dont understand what he is thinking much. then i decided to tell him everything in my mind and seems like he calm down a bit and listen to me...i felt like he's confused right now i dont know...can somebody please advise me what should i do now...im also have conflict with myself. please advise...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011): Thank you for your opinion.Appreciate that I really need lots of pps's idea to help me have more vision. I know it sounds silly to keep him with me but at least so far i just cannot forgetabout him cannot forget about us. It's 2 months already and there is not one day that goes by that i dont think of him. Maybe because im just a crazy&silly gal who cleave to uncertain things. We're email twice a week and i gald that the tone on the email he's still nice as usual at least. Am I wrong if I still have a little hope about us? As u r a man, is it very easy for a man to forget about one woman, how easy for a guy to change the feeling ? just curious? Thanks
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 I hate to say it, but he's right. He wants more out of this relationship than it can give him. Planning a visit is nice, but it's also just a tease. Realistically, how often could you see each other? How far away do you live from each other?
Also, I don't think you're being honest with yourself. You say you're ok with whatever, but you obviously want a relationship. If you were ok with whatever, you'd be ok letting him go.
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