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writes:ok i'd like a guys opnion on this. Im in an long distance relationship for the past month, hes on the east coast and im on the west coast. Hes told me he loves me and i love him the only thing is he says i should know he loves me and he shouldnt have to chat to me every day. he 'll call or e mail me once or twice a week he says he just dont have anything to say. I say that if he really loved me he'd want to chat everyday and wouldnt want to know as much about me as possible. help, do guys really act like this when they love a girl? Or is he just too scared to let his emotions get the best of him?
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reader, Andrew83  +, writes (6 May 2007):
 With some guys it can take abit of time to open up and talk more but in the end they do.
In over 3 months i've talked to someone every day apart from 3 days/nites (couldnt be helped) and we always talk about anything and everything and its a Long Distance Relationship. We're both workin and still talk to each other as much as we can plus the UK is 5 hours ahead of her time whitch is abit harder for us both to talk but we still do.
To answer your question, some guys act like that and some dont but give him abit of time maybe it'l change and you'l both talk more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2007): Have you actually met him, or do you have any plans to meet in the near or future?
Emailing and/or chatting to someone you love once or twice a week certainly isn't very much, and he doesn't strike me as being too enthusiastic. On the other hand, maybe he really does lead a fairly humdrum, uneventful life and in fact does not have a lot to say.
Long-distance relationships are not easy to maintain and grow. What do you want from this one? Do you know what he wants?
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reader, ms.stressed +, writes (28 April 2007):
Guys (well, the guys I've known) are not the biggest chatters in the world. Wheras us girlies like nothing better than to chat away, we start to feel like boys should be the same. They're not. I don't think he's scared to let him emotions get the best of him, he just may not have much to say. Or maybe he's the kind of guy who will eventually open up, but it will take some time before he feels he can truly open up to you. Have a little patience with him. Also (and I learnt this one the hard way!) men don't like to be smothered. If a girl, no matter how much he likes her, starts hounding him everyday he's going to feel trapped and this may have the opposite effect and he'll run away. Speak to each other, but maybe once or twice a week instead and you'll probably have more to talk about as you'll have news to recap from previous days.
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