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41-50,
*arahbaby992
writes:I and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 2 1/2 years. In the beginning it was great, we always used to spend time together. He did little romantic things for me, we would talk to each other on the phone hours and hours. We then moved in together two months into our relationship. And for about one year, everything was great. But now he's just so distant and cold towards me. In the beginning, i wasn't all into the relationship because i was scared to get hurt. So i admit I was kind of distant, but I did love spending time with him. Anyways, lately- he doesn't call me when i'm at work. He doesn't do little sweet things for me anymore. And then just last week, I found out on his myspace a blog written about some other girl. I was devastated. He didn't say anything about technically being with the girl. But he went swimming with her, and they talked. And he said something about her voice being soothing, and that he would like to get to know her better. What I don't understand is? How could he fall out of love with me soooo fast???? We're still dating, but he doesn't want to be called boyfriend-girlfriend. I'm so hurt. What do I do to make this better?
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (23 May 2007):
 Unfortunately I have to agree with DVI's very true comments.
When a guy does not want to be labelled with the bf/gf scenario and he is mentioning another female don't sit around and wait to get hurt.
You moved in together very early on in your relationship and at the beginning all the little gestures are done to impress you and as you were unsure and a little distant at the beginning, he had to get you to notice him and by doing all the romantic things this worked.
Now he has found that he is getting those feelings again but with someone else. He should have at least had the decency to tell you and not let you find out the way you have.
If he enjoys talking and spending time with this other female then he has already moved on from you.
Start to take charge again and tell him it is over and not the other way round. Tell him that a true man does not do the dirty on his gf and then goes behind her back to line up his next conquest. Retain your self respect and surround yourself with family and friends and don't just wait for the inevitable to happen.
You have to regain your self respect as there is a guy out there for you who will love you completely no matter what and while you waste your time with someone who is just biding his time you are using up time you could be having fun.
Hold your head up high as you are a young, attractive, vibrant woman who has the world at her feet so get em tiger!!
I am not being flippant but at least get a little angry about the way he has treated you and keep on telling yourself you can most definitely do better than him.
Good luck and we are always here for you whenever you need us OK.
Take care.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, DV1 +, writes (23 May 2007):
 He seems to have fallen in love with someone else. At this point, you can either let yourself keep getting hurt, or you can walk away.
DV1
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