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writes:So it's the typical situation of a girl falling in love with a friend. Except he doesn't see her as anything other than a friend. And the biggest problem is that girl is me. I met this guy a few months ago when we started working together, and I immediately thought he was extremely attractive. Then we became friends and started hanging out a lot with the same group of people. Slowly, I started developing feelings for him. About 2 weeks ago, we had a small falling out, but after a few days, we were able to talk about it and work things out and actually became closer because of it. It was then that I came to the realization that I didn't just like him, I've fallen in love with him. And this is the first time that's ever happened to me. I don't quite know what to do. I can't stop thinking about him. Everything reminds me of him. But I'm also almost certain that he doesn't feel the same way about me. On the other hand, I don't feel I could ever tell him because I wouldn't want to do anything to ruin our friendship. Having these feelings is absolutely consuming me, it's hard for me to think of anything else other than him. How can I get over this? I thought being in love was supposed to be this fantastic feeling, but when it's one-sided, it feels like the crappiest feeling ever. Should I attempt to try and further this, or should I just try and get over him? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 November 2010):
You probably do need to tell him how you feel. If you don't, you'll regret it and not be able to move on. Even if it ultimately risks the friendship, it's worth it. As long as you're in love with him, you'll never be able to have a working relationship with anyone else.
It's worth telling him how you feel, if only that you can move on from him.
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