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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:hiI'm 18 years old and have been with my Boyfriend for almost a year now, We get on well, have a laugh together, the thing that ruins it all is that he dont like a lot of my mates, the reason he doesnt like them is because some said i was too good for him and he found out, and my mates have told me about his past (they werent exactly good stories) and when i asked him he said my mates are lying and that i should listen to him, not my mates. i love him so much but now i feel on edge when im around him sometimes, he dont like me talking to the opposite sex, and he doesnt like me going on facebook, he said i sit on facebook than spend time with him (which aint true at all) so now i dont go on it anymore if thats what it takes for us to get better. i love him with all my heart and he loves me but i feel angry because i drop everything for him (even my mates), but he just does what he wants, when he feels like it, he breaks promises sometimes, always arrives late, sometimes dont even make an effort to get out of bed and see me, but whenever he wants to see me im always there.My self esteem is feeling low lately, i feel like im not good enough for him, im 18 and i aint doing much with my life, i no longer have a job and he seems to love that im stuck in the house all week, when i go out he dont seem to like that i have friends too. other than all this he treats me well, and he always tells me he loves me. im his first love and first serious girlfriend, he isnt my first love but he is my first serious relationship... now im thinking maybe i should walk away from him and get my life together again coz sometimes i feel hes getting in the way, i just cant imagine my life without him i would miss him too much thats why i can never walk away. when we argue its always me apologising and asking for him to come back when he storms off, otherwise he wouldnt come back if i didnt. he works nights and when he comes to my place to spend time with me he just sits there and falls asleep and it makes me feel worthless, i just dont know how much more of this i can take. any advice would be good because i dont have a clue what to do next... x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): He's a control freak. Get rid now or face a life of misery.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 March 2010):
I think your friends are right. I think you are too good for him. He does what he wants when he feels like it, he breaks promises, always arrives late, doesn't make an effort to really see you, doesn't like any of your friends, doesn't like you talking to other men, doesn't like you on facebook, it's always you apologizing when he storms off, and just falls asleep and makes you feel worthless.
That is a huge list. One that is screaming 'DUMP HIM'. Do you want to be second best to this useless guy for the rest of your life, or would you rather find a decent guy. You must leave him. It's either that, or he will eat away at you for as long as you're with him, until one day you look in a mirror and don't know who you are. Leave him.
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