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*hanice
writes:My partner and I have been together 3 yrs and I thought our relationship was ok. Out of the blue he said that when he made love to me it was like doing it with a little boy. He wont explain what he means, I've had 4 kids and havent got much of a bust anymore. I'm not sure if i will get over this! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the guy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on .
nuff said.
I didn't write this..how, I wish I had.
he needs to feel superior because he is inferior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): My father once told his girlfriend that "if I had any standards, I wouldn't be with you". I know he just spoke without thinking and what came out was the opposite of what he meant. But try telling her that it was a "dumb guy" mistake. He now tries to play it off as a "calculated joke" but it was really his mental dictionary was scrambled and he's partially just a jackass. But he really does love her. Maybe your man is just a dinglefritz like my dad can be. Yeah, I agree though, ask him to buy you some boobs if he doesn't like the ones you have now... and then dump him once you get them! But if that isn't what you want, and he was serious and just trying to hurt you, then he's a big time prick. I'm sure he's not physically perfect either. Stoop down to his level and pick out one of his flaws and run with it. But this is coming from a twenty-something year old who still has a lot of growing up to do. But good luck and I'm sorry your hurt. I'm sure you beautiful the way you are though.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 3 years later and all of sudden he's complaining about your bust line? Sounds like there's more to the story than what you have given us. Yeah, he said it to be nasty and is taking a stab at your insecurity, hitting you where it hurts. Did he even apologize? I would tell him if he doesn't like what he has anymore then there's the door.
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reader, Chanice +, writes (16 November 2010):
Chanice is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answers i should of explained that my children are from a past relationship. I have tried talkin to him this morning & he said he only said it to be nasty. What hurts the most is the fact, he must really think that i do look a boy & that it didnt just roll of his tongue. Im trying hard to keep it together but not sure if i can get over it. Thanks again to you all
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): Do you want to get over it? I mean - what kind of man is that cruel to the mother of his children? I'd face the facts - he has insulted you emotionally and during a sexual act. I cannot envisage you are gonna get that idea out your head before love-making again (the word love highly doubtful). It damages your self-worth for the long-term. Don't make one single excuse for his behaviour. I'd get away from him and find someone that makes you feel 100% woman.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 'Funny you say that. I was thinking the same thing about you.'
Hahaha! You're ice cold quiet-echo... :)
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (16 November 2010):
Ouch... well that was super insensitive of him wasn't it... I can't even think of a reason why he would possibly say this to you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): Insist that he explains his remark so you can better understand what he means. I expect he had one of those 'open mouth, insert foot' moments. And hes scared to expand on the comment because hes seen its upset you and he doesnt want to make things worse. But try talking to him about it. If he really doesnt enjoy love making, which is what im assuming, if he likens it to being with a boy. Then its a matter that needs discussion or you will reach a stage where you dont want to make love anymore and things will get difficult. He might not have meant your bust. It could be you like to wear your hair very short. Or you are very slim and he likes more curves. You need to find out what he meant rather than try and second guess as you could be way off. So talk to him again and explain you wont be angry or offended, you just need to know what he was refering to.
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