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writes:me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years and out of the blue he says he wants to move and start a new life, and hes been treating me terrible latley, but he hasnt actually broke up with me, what do you think this means. please help im very upset.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 Right take the bull by the horns here as this guy is playing with your head and that just isn't fair, he has told you it is over and perhaps in his own mind that is it.
Right withdraw from him completely, do you live together or not?
If you do then get him to move out if he is the one who wants to start a new life somewhere, if not and you are still living at home or something then stop seeing him, there is no excuse to treat you badly if he has told you it is over, what is the point in punishing you further and messing with your head.
Start to get a little angry here, he has ended it so don't hang around to be hurt further by him talking or treating you badly, make a stand and tell HIM that enough is enough.
I think he is obviously weak if he is not following through with what he has said.
You need to get on with your life and staying with someone who is treating you in this way is not doing you any good at all, get advice from friends and family and make him decide what he is doing as it is time for you to take matters into your own hands and by saying right it is over you will surprise him if he thinks you are still together.
There is a fantastic guy out there for you and wasting your time on your ex is no way of moving forward. Cut the ties and start to plan the rest of your life, you are young and the world is at your feet, start to make plans of what you want to do with your life and even get your friends around you to support you with your family as well.
If your ex bf see's that you are a lot stronger than he thought, you will shock him, by then though it is too late and by showing a confidence in yourself the guys who have stayed away will be attracted to you as you are gorgeous and exuding a really strong confident manner.
He has kept you hanging for far too long, take the decision out of his hands and be the one in control now, you can do it believe me. Get your friends and family around you though as they will boost your confidence to get you through all of this.
I am not pretending it will be easy but you will feel much better once you know where you stand and only you can make that happen now.
Stay strong sweetheart and the rest of your life is waiting for you.
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
COuntry Woman
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