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A drunken one-night stand is weighing heavily on my conscience

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Question - (22 July 2007) 4 Answers - (Newest, 7 October 2007)
A male United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

hey. I need help. Big time.

No matter what you think of me because of what I've done, please help. Thanks.

My girlfriend and I have been going strong for quite some time now.. nearly 2 years..

The last time I got totally drunk was at a friend's party, I cheated on my girlfriend..

At the time, I was too drunk to realise that this other girl wasn't my girlfriend, she knows that I cheated on her, and we're hanging on by a thread.. I've gone dry n clean since that night.. but it's not helping.. I'm being eaten up inside by what I feel, I love her, and I want the best for her, she doesnt know the worst of it though, that I slept with this girl mistakingly.. yes.. I know you might say "ohh shut up, you cant do it mistakingly" but I did, my girlfriend is my life, and one stupid night nearly wrecked us.. but I can't bring myself to tell her all of what happened, shes already asked about it..

I guess I'm so selfish, clinging onto this relationship by a thread.. I know she will get rid of me if I tell her all of what happened.. and I can't lose her..

what do I do? I'm going insane.. Please help me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007):

I just did the same thing to my boyfriend of a year. I was defnatly taken advantage of though. He doesnt know. And I love him more than anything, we want to get married and start a family... The guilt is killing me, but i dont want to ruin what we have. I feel for you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007):

You have to tell her everything you know or remember. She deserves to know all the facts so she can decide whether or not forgiveness is possible. I am living this right now, trust I know her side.

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A female reader, RUSTUPID United States +, writes (23 July 2007):

Let your guilt be a lesson to you.. it is punishment enough what she doesnt know wont hurt her at this point you should just keep it to yourself.. or the thread will be cut.

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A female reader, YummyMummy United Kingdom +, writes (22 July 2007):

YummyMummy agony auntIt sounds like the relationship is going down the drain already so I think telling her what happened may be a good idea seen as she is asking. I wouldn't go in to all the gorey details though.

Yes you may loose her, but unfortunetly we all make mistakes in our life that cost us dearly. But you may find that given time she may forgive you if you explain that is was nothing, and you were too drunk to know what was going on.

You can't carry on with the relationship the way it is.

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