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writes:Hey guys, so my boyfriend of about almost two years and I for the most part do pretty great. The problem is he has had a pretty bad experience with one of his ex girlfiends cheating on him now he is almost always accusing me of cheating when I'm not ! He just says all girls always cheat. I usually can talk him down and he will be fine but lately it's been much worse they form into nasty areguments , almost ending in breakup. I always tell him where I am at and who I'm with and when and even what I am wearing, hoping that he will feel comfortable with me and what I am doing. But he still blames me for cheating and it really hurts that he thinks so lowly of me after everything I do that ensure that he is okay with what I am doing when I'm not with him. I have even had to give up some guy friends for him. This issue is getting out of hand, and it's not fair. He is stubborn and seems to always believe that I am cheating , what do i do ??? Thanks guys!!:)
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reader, adaminio  +, writes (6 July 2013):
In relationships they say the one that does the cheating is the one who accuses the other, I had a gf of four years who always thought I would cheat and I never really had girl mates and if I did she got jealous, anyway I trusted her with my heart, but after 4 years ,we had a slight rough patch and then she had a new man behind my back, sometimes peoples insucurities beat them. Tell him straight he is going to force you away if he continues to act the way he is
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (5 July 2013):
 Because of HIS bad experience he chooses to blame, punish and accuse you of the same; as he has made up his mind that; “all girls always cheat.” Rather than seeing himself as having the problem, it’s easier for him to buddle all girls, you included into one basket and say they all cheat. Now I don’t know about you, but if someone was to continually accuse me of something like this and make me give up guy friends, I’d get pretty tied, alert and angry with them. Plus I’d see a RED FLAG go up in that this guy is troubled and taking his insecurities out on me. Like him or love him, I’d recommend he sort himself out first and get his facts straight before calling me a liar!?I believe; whilst you’re doing all the changing to make him comfortable, to ensure that he is okay etc… have you noticed how he remains the same in his thinking of you? In his mind and in the way he treats you, ‘you are no better’ than his Ex-cheating girlfriend :( Take Care – CAA
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 July 2013):
 Sadly, after two years I think all you can do is consider leaving...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2013): I think you should be more assertive when you talk to him - tell him that as much as you love him, you two will never move forward and get over this issue if he is not willing to try to trust you more - even if it takes having some faith in what you so, and he is scares at first. Tell him you want to work on this with him, but right now it is just a bad circle and you don't see anything changing. He needs to make this decision, and you can help him by reassuring him. However if he does not even try to trust you more than he does, nothing will change and eventually he will drive you away. Have this discussion with him and ask if he is willing to put some faith in you. Tell him he is your whole world, that no other guy could give you what you've got with him... so why would you cheat. If he is not willing to change amd in 6 months time there is no change, it might be time to move on, or give him a last warning.Sorry if this sounds harsh
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