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anonymous
writes:When I gave my boyfriend a blow job, he didn't ejaculate. Am i crap?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): ``I dont think you should be worrying about this. Boys shuld be grateful for u to giv them bjs in the first place, because it givs us woman no pleasure at all! Trust me, they shuld appreciate wateva they get, so i wouldnt worry at all.``Wow what a stupid way of thinking. If you really don't enjoy blowjobs just don't give them. It's probably better than giving a crappy one and making your guy feel shitty when he can't come on demand for you. As for the orginal question, first ask him? Was it his first blowjob or has he had some before? If he has ask him what he likes best. If not, try getting him really excited before you give him a blowjob, build up the anticipation abit, almost get him off with a handjob etc. This will make the blowjob shorter for you aka (you won't feel like you have lockjaw) And he'll probably come. But seriously maybe he was just stressed, or thinking about other stuff. Don't stress about it ask him. And if you too shy to ask him, maybe you shouldn't be giving him a bj in the first place
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (12 October 2007):
He may have ejaculated a hour or two earlier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): No way are you cr*p! Some blokes just dont all the time, but that doesnt mean than you are rubbish at it.
take care
xxx
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female
reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Don't feel bad! You're man sounds like mine. My man doesn't cum during just mouth action alone. There has to be some wrist action in there also. If you're just using your mouth try and incorporate your hands into it also. And remember that a blowjob is basically foreplay and you are just warming him up so when you give him his next blowjob and feel him quiver jump on and finish him off with sex! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): You should ask him, but definitely don't say "Why didn't you ejaculate" as this will make him feel as if he is supposed to and it's his fault he didn't.
It can sometimes be difficult for a man to ejaculate when being given a blow job, this is a combination of stress on his part (becoming anxious that he is expected to ejaculate when he isn't ready) and bad technique on hers.
You should say something like this "Did you enjoy it when I gave you a BJ and is there anything I could do to improve it?".
Framing the question this way is most likely to get a constructive answer because he won't feel like he is offending you.
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reader, rhino +, writes (11 October 2007):
 no you are not,just try a different way,there are many ways to do a blow job,try gripping it at the base,sliding yours hands upwards slowly,placing your mouth over the helmet,and licking all the way to the base,slowly and back upwardshe has a little notch under his helmet,flick it gently with your tounge,let us know how you get on,good luck
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reader, sexi  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Hi
No their could be lots of reason why he didnt. If it is really bothering him,ask him and you would get an answer - It may not necesarily be you.
Regards
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): I dnt thnk u shuld be worrying about this. Boys shuld be grateful for u to giv them bjs in the first place, because it givs us woman no pleasure at all! Trust me, they shuld appreciate wateva they get, so i wouldnt worry at all.
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Some guys don't all the time during that. Never think you're crap, as long as he's getting a blow job, he's in seventh heaven.
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