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writes:Their is this guy that I had been dating for about 14 months.... I love him to Death and care about him so much. I left him about month ago due to finding dirty messages on his phone sent to another girl and messages on his computer to his ex (the mother of his children) telling her how much he loves her and that he always will... Taking into account that this isnt the first time it has happened.... Being a long distant relationship to start off with he says that he was just drunk and lonely but it never meant anything. and still denys ever sending the dirty pictures of himself to another girl that I seen with my own eyes... He seems to think it is also ok to send messages every now and then to say hi to ex girl friends... Even when it is an ex that caused so much trouble for us and almost ruined us...He says he loves me and all he wants is me their with him and that if he wanted anyone else he sure as hell wouldnt be wasting his time on me.. Apart of me cant let him go but apart of me tells me I cant go back their. I dont think that I could trust him again with out having access to his phone and computer as that is where our trust issues lie. How can I trust him again when I dont even know that he is doing the right thing by me.. How much effort should he put in to gain my trust back. I told him for now that I just need time to figure out for myself whether I can put myself through it again and what I want and his response waswell if you dont come down then you can have all the time in the world with out me... Am I being blind, is the answer right in front of me.. I am so confused because I love him so much but how many chances can you give a man... Thank you for taking the time to read through and I hope it all makes sense and I would just love any advice that i can get...... Hope to hear from you soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): Your man has shown you himself - he has presented himself to you, the man he is and what he is capable of. Now re-read your own words "I just need time to figure out for myself whether I can put myself through it again" the key words for me are "whether I can" not "I will not" put myself through that ever again. Don't you think you have been through enough? At what point will you draw the line? What makes you keep giving chances.... its NOT love.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 February 2010):
This guy is so full of crap. He sent those pictures, and you saw them. And he's still lying. You can do without him for sure. He did it once, you forgave him. Now he's done it again and he's sat there lying to you about it. Find a much better guy.
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