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writes:My boyfriend and I are planning moving in together, marriage children the works after a long time together. However in the past he has been a bit of a commitment phobe and on one or two occasions things have got serious and hes done a runner. All of the moving in together etc have been his idea and ive let him go at his own pace and put no pressure on him as I didn't want history to repeat itself. It hasnt and things have gone well, but now hes started to mention major things like this and weve started talking seriously Im having major doubts. Is this a normal thing if the relationship has gone wrong before, its been keeping me awake at night its been that bad at some points. I love him with all my heart, and I want it to work, but I have just very recently had massive sinking feelings and doubts about it all. Should I voice these fears or should I just ignore them, as i fear telling him i have my doubts he will go through with anything ive said will make him feel terrible. Reply to this Question
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reader, girl from bristol +, writes (10 February 2010):
well moving in together is a serious commitment to somebody if you are having doubts then you should talk to him and maybe he can work out with you how to fix what ever is giving you doubts if not then you maybe a couple who just want to be together but not commitment or maybe you or both of you need time too get used to the idea and when you are ready you will feel different talk to him take it from there good luck
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