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writes: I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and I proposed, which made him so happy, as we had always spoken about it, and when it happened he said "at last your all mine", then less than a month later, all of a sudden we broke up, as he said his feelings changed, and out of the blue, he said that he doesn't want this and doesn't want a relationship with a man, and rather wants a woman in his life. We thought, well I thought we were each others soulmates, and we were meant to be. he even said that he wanted to marry me, and spend our lives together. He always said that his preference was me, how did that change?I feel so negative about love, and my confidence has dropped to zero, and he is being so cold, what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): To Anonymous,It seems he might just be telling the truth, because at one time I was in you EX's situation. The best thing is to let go. I know its hard too, and it hurts, and your ticked off. He didnt do it to hurt you I can asure you. I am sure he did care for you, and even loved you, but the woman came in his life. I will try to keep this short and sweet and tell you what happened with me. Hope this sheds some light on this.I was in a relationship for nearly 22 years with a man that I adored. I mean this man to me could walk on water. I truely loved him... Then one day while a group of friends and I were hanging out I met this remarkable 26 year old Straight Lady who later became my soulmate. At first I tryed to cover up the fact that I was remotely attracted to her. I even caught myself flirting with her. I distanced myself from her to hope it would all go away. I even found myself wanting to be near her. We became friends, and all the sudden it dawned on me! after being her friend for nearly a year "OMG! I AM TURNING STRAIGHT AND LOVE THIS WOMAN! MAYDAY MAYDAY!I am supossed to be GAY!" It was scarey and confussing for me. After being in a 22 year gay Relationship, and then to be Falling head over hills with this Woman. I was depressed, but knew I had to make a choice Him or Her. Well I am 47 and have been Married for 3 years to my wife Laura. And have a 1 year old daughter. All I can say is life is odd at time's, and never in a million years did I think for one second I would be inlove with a woman, but it happened. I thought I was forever going to be with a Man. Hope this helps and gives insight to your situation.
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reader, yoyouyont +, writes (30 May 2006):
as a gay person myself i feel that the desperation epitomised by gay men (sexually confident and handsome)is quite unjustified . the reality is that not enough gay's exist therefore when they find each other it can be eye opening and beautiful. irrelevant all good thing most likely have an end. just be glad you had a love at all as many never do (think about the ugliest person you know and imagine what it feels like to be them in a world of red carpets). just remember that friends and family come first and they will be your support even if you dont know so utilise this, do!
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reader, matron +, writes (27 May 2006):
 Hi,This is nothing to do with anything you've said or done. your ex is obviously confused about his sexuality. You need to have a serious talk with him, has he just got cold feet with committment becoming a reality, or has he met someone else and thinks by telling you he wants a woman it will hurt less or you'll not pursue the issue, either way he owes you an honest explanation that way you can move on with your life with or without him. Dont bottle things up talk to close friends and remember you have done nothing wrong. One day you will find someone that deserves your love i wish you lots of luck, take care xx
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reader, Gina715 +, writes (26 May 2006):
Im not suprised that you are confused. This man has told you he loves you and then has broke up with you. I recommemnd that you talk to him properly, tell him you are confused and that he is out of order to do such a thing to you. This man is confused about his sexuality , prehaps he realises that he doesnt feel comfortable about he sexuality.If I were you I would speak to this man and continue doing the things that you enjoy doing. Spend time with friends and family. You need to sort this out before it gets any worse. I wish you luck and hope it all goes well for you.
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