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writes: I recently entered into a new relationship and have not been sexually active since falling pregnant with my 3 year old son. My partner is very well endowed and when we have sex i tear each time and am left in pain and feeling very uncomfortable. Which makes it more difficult to relax each time we attempt to have sex. What I would like to know is if at some point i will get used to his size and that the tearing will stop. Also how long does it take to get used to a larger man? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (26 May 2006):
 It usually doesn't take much time to have your body adjust to a large size penis if you can relax. Sex is such a mental and emotional journey for women that if a prior worry is on the mind it is almost impossible to relax.
Here is an idea that helps many women after pregnancy or childbirth get back into action.
You need to take control in the bedroom. Take the problem, or the large penis, in hand. Lubricate heavily and hold on to it. Get into a position you feel comfortable with that gives you complete control. On top works if you have good leg strength, there are a few side by side positions that also work, some wrap their hands around their partners penis when he is coming from behind. You control the depth and speed it enters, keeping your hand wrapped around the member at all times until you feel comfortable. Go slow, start with just his tip going in, if he tries to speed up or go in deeper, tighten your grip. If it ever starts being uncomfortable pull him completely out.
Taking control and knowing he has no choice but to follow your lead, will help you relax.
GOOD LUCK!!!
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