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writes:I really like my best friend's boyfriend. I have liked him for about 2 years now and never told anyone about it. We all had a few 3somes together at some point, and me and the boyfriend work together which makes me like him even more. My mate has never been happy with him at all and always moans to me about him as he is not a very nice boyfriend to have as he does not cuddle in bed, does not have sex anymore and loads more.We were all out on a works night out and i told him how i felt and he said he felt the same way. The next day he called me and he could not belive that i liked him as he thought i was just too good for him. We were seeing each for a while and we both fell in love with each other and i told him all about the people that his girlfriend has slept with behind his back as he knew all of them work. I only did this as he is a nice bloke and he deserved better. He knew all about her bad past that she has and was never sure to get with her. All the things that she tells me about him is not true as he is loving towards me and we cuddle all the time. Why they do not do this i do not know. She found out about us seeing each other and went mad at him and not me, this is only because i knew all the things i know about her. He confronted her about her cheacting and she said she has done nothing and he does not belive her but she will not tell him the truth and just admit it. She has now told everyone at work to get as many people to sympathise with her and they do, but they do not know the whole truth about what she has done. Now we have found out she is having his baby, and i think she did this on purpose to keep him. He did not know what to do as he loves me but wants to be a good dad. He can't handle knowing what she has done and that she will not admit it, he does not want to finish with me either as he loves me. He says he does not love her and that he is only staying for the sake of the kid but i am not sure as i know this must be a hard situation for him. Am i being selfish in all of this, i just don't know how he can be with a girl that sleeps around and she will not admit it, when he could be with me and be really happy as he even know how well we get on and that we always luagh together, He was never really that happy with her and does wish he finished with her but he must stay for the kid now. We are still seeing each other and i just don't want it to end as i do love him. We could have been really happy together and he knows this but he now feels really trapped and does not know what to do.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (27 March 2008):
 Tisha...I believe this lady is the 'other girl'
Let me get this straight..
This is your quote:
''She found out about us seeing each other and went mad at him and not me, this is only because i knew all the things i know about her.''
''Now we have found out she is having his baby, and i think she did this on purpose to keep him. He did not know what to do as he loves me but wants to be a good dad.''
The 'other girl's' quote:
''She found out about us seeing each other and went mad at him and not me, this is only because i knew all the things i know about her''.
''Now we have found out she is having his baby, and i think she did this on purpose to keep him. He did not know what to do as he loves me but wants to be a good dad''... blah blah blah
Could you by any chance be pulling our plonkers, young lady?
If you have a genuine problem, we will all try and resolve it as best we can for you, there really is no need to post us a duplicate copy of the 'other girl's' message.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (27 March 2008):
 God... I really pity the poor baby being born into you lot.
And yes you are being selfish, she is having a baby and you are shagging her boyfriend. She would be better off getting rid of him and you. What kind of mate does this?
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reader, loops +, writes (27 March 2008):
I'll be totally honest. If considering she has been such a nightmare he hasnt left ( regardless of the baby- arrangments can be made and its a lot better for a child to have two seperated parents that can concentrate on it than have two parents together who cant stand each other)then your probably on to a no winner here. He has the comfort of you but the stability of his girlfriend, and probably wont leave, and do you really want to be sharing this guy?
I would take a very big step back and tell him that untill you can have a clear cut relationship there should be one. For the sake of EVERYONE involved, especially yourself as you are just going to spend the entirity of this relationship being second to someone else. You don't need that. There is plenty of people out there who would be better for you, with none of this baggage.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 Wasn't this question just posted earlier? The only difference is the age.
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