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writes:Hi everyone. I'm 19 and at uni. Unfortunately, I suffer from very bad social anxiety and I really struggle in new, different and out of the usual situations. I've done a lot of things that other people haven't (I've actually traveled to the other side of the world on my own), but I still can't cope with day to day things that are out of my ordinary routine. It's holding me back and stopping me from doing things that I'd like to do, and I always feel rubbish about myself if I don't do it. I also end up isolating myself by leaving myself out of events. When I go, I normally enjoy. It's the over-thinking and worrying before hand that's the worst. I usually can't eat, make myself vomit, can't sleep and have panic attacks, before I end up thinking 'this is ridiculous' and don't go.I'd like to ask if anyone has any advice for building myself up to do these things? The actual thing isn't too bad, but the worry and panic before is so intense that I usually end up not going or doing whatever it is. Could someone please offer me some advice? It's really getting me down and I'd be really grateful for some tips. Reply to this Question
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (1 May 2012):
 I'm similar to you. I suffer from anxiety and, while I'm friendly to people, I was never really the "popular" kid and was never in the "popular" group. I just had my small circle of friends at school. I'd say just start out slow with your anxiety. I'm sure you have some friends to hang out with and just take it nice and slow. Do things you're comfortable in doing, then graduatly spread out, like going to parties and converse with others. Try joining a club either at school or outside school, which will not only make you feel comfortable because it's something you're interested in, but it will also help you make more friends and help with your anxiety. Good luck!
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