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anonymous
writes:I am so conflicted. I have been dating a man for about 4 years. Last March I found out he cheated on me with my best friend. I broke it off with him and kicked him out of my house. Afterwards he was very remorseful and fought very hard to win me back. We decided to work on our relationship. This was in June. Not too long after we decided to get back together he was accepted to Pharmacy school. He moved 2 hours away. We talk everyday and meet up when we can. However, I don't feel the way I used to about him. I used to be so in love with him I couldn't imagine my life without him. Now I live without him and I do just fine. I still love him but I am not sure I am in love with him. I keep telling myself that time will tell but I am not so sure. What do I do?
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reader, terrifenby  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 you need to be true to yourself, at the end of the day you need to be happy! you deserve to be happy so if you dont feel like you used to about this man, talk to him and let him know and do what your heart is telling you to do! all my best
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): It's good that you managed to give him a second chance, but trust is something that has to be built up over a long time and once that trust has been betrayed it takes an awful lot longer to rebuild it.
He now knows what your reaction is likely to be if he does it again, and with your womans' sixth sense, I dare say you'll notice a big difference in your relationship if he's strayed again. I expect he knows that too so he'll think very hard about giving in to temptation again.
If you have the inclination to build up that trust again, give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he's being faithful to you. Unless his phone calls get less and you detect a difference in his attitude I think you can be safe in the knowledge that he's being a good boy. Bear in mind though, that when his studies take over, he's going to be very busy with them and probably won't have as much spare time as he does now.
Phil
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