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writes:Me and my best friend who's a girl have been mates since we were little n we are now both 16. I have had deep feelings for her for ages and by that i mean years you wouldn't believe how in love with her i am. I stop at hers alot of weekends soetimes on my own sometime another est mate of ours is there. Thing is somethings got to be done about this, i need to tell her how i feel. Everyone says she feels the same but i've never dared bring up the subject. I don't know when to do it or even how to. She left my house where i am now about half an hour ago. We had been just doing some coursework and watching tv, although i know we are only friends but we just tend to cuddle up on the settee as weird as that may sound to you and when i leave her to go home at night or something i always kiss her n she does me, we don't kiss as in a snog or anything just a friendly kiss on the lips. We have even slept together once because we were watching a film and got so tired that we were too tired to unfold the spare bed. She just lay in my arms for most of the night-asleep obviously. And we just talked the next morning, nothing happened so please don't judge us and there was nothing intending on happening, my mum was out for the night at the time but i don't think she would have been bothered anyway she knows how close we are and me and her don't really get on. What can i do i love her so much i don't know if i should just tell her apart from the fact i don't know how to or when or whether to or should i try to show her in a different way like when we are cuddled up or something. I just don't know what to do because i never want to let go of her and i want to get closer and closer all the time but don't know how to go about it. Help please.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (26 September 2007):
 first of all, why is this tagged as gay relationships? lol.
i think you should wait a while, try to look for any clues or hints that she might feel the same about you. i understand how strong your feelings for her are but if you go blurting out that you love her and she doesnt feel the same she will be embarrassed and the friendship will be changed. and you wouldnt want to lose her from your life altogether would you?
try asking if shes dating anyone or interested in anyone, does she find excuses to touch you when you are together? look out for prolonged eye contact .. any signs that she might be secretly feeling the way you are and take it from there
good luck
brooke
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