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*olltidemom86
writes:So ok last week my boyfriend caught me flirting online sexually suggestive like, no i didn't send pictures, my number,or ever met up with these two people. From that day i cutoff contact with both guys, gave my boyfriend all my passwords and even deleted my fubar which caused our majority of problems, all week i felt horrible and felt guilty as hell for what i did then last night i found out my boyfriend had been on fubar looking through girls nude photos while i have full trust in him and know he didn't talk to them or anything it hurts to know he viewed them makes me feel less appealing. How do i get over my insecurity? (don't be hateful i just need input i know i was wrong with my actions and so does he)
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 Your welcome...well then I have to be honest and ask the question is there any mileage left in this relationship? The fact is the behaviour of both of you (maybe his to a greater extent since your saying its an ongoing pattern of behaviour with him) suggests there is something seriously wrong and missing in this relationship; both of you have looked elsewhere for something your not getting from each other, and your choice is to either to try and get to the bottom of that (for which, I feel more info would be needed) or can the relationship.
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reader, rolltidemom86 +, writes (3 July 2011):
rolltidemom86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replies, I would like to shed some light on it, we both had online accounts i deleted mine a week ago, he told me the only reason he had one was because i had one , and then i caught him still on it is when i asked why and then he told me, it hurt a lot but he wasn't fighting fire with fire, he had been doing this before i got caught i just didn't notice it til now.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (3 July 2011):
Well it's good you both acknowledge your wrong; that's a good start. As Miss said it seems like a simple case of him trying to fight fire with fire, immature yes but you were wrong in the first instance so there is plenty of wrong to go round. In this situation I think its best to just try to draw a line under this as soon as you can.
In term's of getting over your insecurity I think you have to remember what both answers have so far made plain - this was to do with what you *did* not how attractive you are. I really think you need to nip this in the bud else it is in with a serious chance of wrecking this relationship. Sit down, talk it through, show you regret what you did and he should apologise too and hopefully you will be able to make it through this stronger. Good luck :)
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (3 July 2011):
 It seems like he is trying to fight fire with fire, pay you back for what you have done. What happens when you fight fire with fire? More fire! His seeking revenge is justified but sort of immature. He may be trying to get a rise out of you, but I wouldn't look too far into it unless you catch him actually talking to one of these girls. Stay committed to him. Show him that was a one time mistake, one that you truly regret.Hope this helps.
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