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*inicky One
writes:I am 24 weeks pregnant and today I tried to have sex with my bf. We started but then he stopped, stating that we shouldn't keep going. I asked why and he said he doesn't know. What? I wanted an answer. He told me that he think it's a males intuition or whatever. Bull! I think it's because I'm fat and unattractive from this pregnancy!!! Please help me. How can I be attractive and pregnant? Reply to this Question
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reader, Finicky One +, writes (28 September 2009):
Finicky One is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone! I guess I was going through an emotional stage because I look like I have a big pot belly and breasts. LOL you'all made me laugh, blush and feel beautiful. Thanks!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 September 2009):
Relax. You're not unattractive and he doesn't think that. He's just worried that it might harm the baby. See if you can persuade him to come to the doctor with you to discuss what you can and can't do in pregnancy. Or failing that, find out for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): I'm sure he's just concerned about the baby, I have no doubt that you're still attractive to him, but he may not have wanted to say why he was worried because he didn't want you to worry about it either.
Also, side-note, I laughed out loud at the first guy's anonymous post haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): Stop thinking you're fat and unattractive. Any mature man will know that it's not called "fat" it's called pregnant and when pregnant you're supposed to look pregnant. He needs to deal with that. Its not your problem but his, so stop taking the blame on you.
And yeah, he's probably worried he'll harm the baby. Give him some books to read about pregnancy and sex during pregnancy, that can help him understand better what you are going through.
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reader, midnight dusk  +, writes (27 September 2009):
 I'm NOT siding with you B.F but here is a site which may help you to understand why or a safe way to have sex during pregnancy. But i think if you are pregnant anf he thinks it is fat and not your uterus then he doesn't understand the importance of support whilst pregnant!!!
(no offence) hope i helped...........
http://kidshealth.org/parent/pregnancy_newborn/pregnancy/sex_pregnancy.html#
PJ
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): He's probably just freaked out about it. Or worried he's going to hurt you or the baby. Sit and have a talk with him and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't want to have full sex ask how he feels about foreplay. Hope you sort things and congrats on the pregnancy :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): Speaking as a father of three, for lots of us guys pregnant women are incredibly sexy. So either he's afraid to damage the child (and a few minutes on the internet should fix that) or, ya, he doesn't find you sexy. Time to talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): Dude, I think he didnt want to have sex because he is thinking of the kid inside of you. Imagine being a baby, with a penis hitting you in the head.
Well thats what would be going through my mind when I am having sex with a pregmet chick......
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