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anonymous
writes:My guy mate and I have been friends for quite awhile now, we get along really well and laugh a lot.We do a lot for each other and help each other whenever we are free.Only thing is he calls me bud! Why? Isn't that a guy to guy thing?I don't think it is a go any further type thing even though we get on really well, he also has a girlfriend, does calling me bud mean something?We laugh and joke about all sorts of things and most of the time he just calls me by my name, no actual nickname, but other than that I get bud when he is calling me or messaging me.Don’t get me wrong I am very grateful for my best friend that he wants to spend so much time withme, but is it a little strange that he spends so much more time with me than his girlfriend.From the time we both wake to the time we go to sleep we are talking to each on the phone or texting each other, he even texts me when home with his girlfriend.We see each other pretty much everyday, we have a lot in common and he pretty much asks my advice about everything and anything.He does talk to me about his girlfriend and I get on with her when we all meet, but a lot of the conversation he tells me about is his arguments with her and her moaning at him, yet in the next breath he will be saying something that reminds him of her or what she would like.Do I want to get in the middle of all of this, is this situation all strange, he never mentions about me being his best friend as obviously that would be his girlfriend but it does seem all a bit weird of is it just me that’s weird lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2018): actually have 3 other good friends, who or love a lot, i feel very privileged that I have them in my life.
He's the one that initiates all the calls and messages and stuff, not very often it is myself
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 March 2018):
 Id imagine he calls you bud to remind you that you are both just friends. I am sure a lot of people complain about there partners to there friends, no big deal really thats what friends are for. I think you should maybe try and hang out with other mates as well and maybe not spend so much time together. It is clear you might like him more than a friend, but you need to remember he would be with you if he wanted to be.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (23 March 2018):
 I would imagine his use of the term "bud" is his way of drawing boundaries and making it clear you are friends, nothing else, regardless of how much time you spend in contact with each other.
Speaking from experience, I have a couple of male friends I love dearly AS FRIENDS but with whom I have never wanted to share anything physical. We often call each other "mate".
I think you need to either spend a bit more time with other friends or get yourself a boyfriend, rather than fixating on your "best friend" who, really, should be directing more of his energy towards his relationship with his girlfriend. I suspect you and he have different agendas: you appear to be hankering for more from this relationship, whereas he is totally happy with being "buds". Stop waiting for something which may never happen and go out and enjoy your life.
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