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writes:Dear CupidI am with my current boyfriend for 4 years, we have our ups and downs and i love him and he says the same though some times i do feel he doesn't love me as much as i love him.Long story short, yesterday he had few drinks too many in party and called me and confessed that he was cheating on me for a while. I was do dumbstruck, i cut the call and after sometime called him and texted him and he is not picking up the calls or responding to my text. Is he telling me the truth? Do people usually tell the truth while drunk? even if i confront him i dont think he will own up and will definitely say he was messing with me. What should i do now? please help me
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 November 2015):
 Ah, yes.... alcohol sure can have the effect of enhancing truthfulness..... Count your Blessings that you now know what a cad you were dating.... and dump his sorry bottom, and get on with your life.... WITHOUT HIM!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, boo22  +, writes (8 November 2015):
 Is he crazy??
If not then I would assume he's telling the truth. Who would ring their girlfriend and say that otherwise??
I would wait for him to contact you then see him and dump him. I don't see you have any other choice I'm sorry to say.
Be strong and good luck x
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (8 November 2015):
 You should do nothing. In fact you've done too much already by calling and texting him back. He's just confessed to doing the wrong thing and you shouldn't be chasing him.
People aren't honest when drunk, as a rule, it's just that they'll say and do things they wouldn't otherwise say or do when sober. Sometimes it's a need to confess and other times it's nasty things meant to hurt, as mystique points out.
In this case I think your boyfriend was telling the truth. My advice is you take a few days to think about what YOU want to do. Chasing him only weakens your position.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (8 November 2015):
 My ex husband was/is an alcoholic. I lived with him for over 6 years before I finally realized he didn't want help and was perfectly happy being drunk all the time. One thing I learned is that drunks may tell the truth or lie while drunk, but one thing they do have in common is that they often will say things while drunk that they would NEVER say while sober. Being drunk seems to make them fearless and of course they lose most of their inhibitions. My ex was very mean and cruel when drunk and said some very hurtful things that I guess he always felt but never would say while sober.
I am sorry to tell you this but if he said there is probably about an 80% chance he was telling you the truth. He may have been wanting to tell you for awhile, but just didn't have the courage.
Its a terrible way to find out, but take him at what he says and decide what you plan to do from here. I wish you the best whatever choices you make.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 November 2015):
 I too would take it for the truth. He really had no reason to lie. It's not like he can play it of as a joke, because THAT is just not funny.
So what do you do now? You consider yourself single. You pack up his crap and ask a mutual friend to pass it along to your ex.
After that? You move on. I know it suck to find out that your partner cheated on you, but it is what it is. It's time for you to begin the process of moving on. I'd start with blocking his number and go no contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2015): People lie or tell the truth when drunk. You can't depend on what you're told when people are intoxicated. However; most confessions about cheating are true. He probably got drunk to summon the courage to tell you, because his conscience was getting to him.
What other people usually do while drunk has little to nothing to do with your boyfriend's confession. Take that at face value.
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