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writes:Im in such a muddle after my boyfriend of nine months ended our relationship, I walked away held my head high and accepted it although I was gutted. Two weeks later he contacted me and spent a few days with me telling me he loved me, but need time on his own. He then sent me another message on friday saying, he missed me thought of me every day, but needed to be on his own for a while. Again i said thats fine, take care. Then Saturday night he texts, I love youxxxx, then I want to kiss youxx then a few more similar to this. What is going on here ? How can you love somone, feel the need to keep contacting them, but then not want to see them. I although upset was just getting on with my life, why cant he leave it ? he is asking for space but then texting the things that he is. If i wanted space i would not keep contacting the person i wanted space from !!!He is a decent man I dont think he would purposely hurt me. Is he really so confused ? What should I do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your responses, I think you are both right in the fact that I need to ignore him. I know there is noone else, there are lots of more issues involved but were to long to write about. But yes at the moment he is just checking Im still there for him, and I think i need to take that security away from him. Thankyou.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (8 January 2007):
 I think he hada a crisis and wanted to go clubbing and all that stuff he also wants to feel free to meet other women and se how much he would enjoy life as a single guy without compromises but wants to keep the possiblility of geting back to you anytime if he doesn't meet othersex sexually appealing lady who cares like u then I would suggest you to do one out of 2 things
1.ultimatum-with u or no contact
2.play the same game
good luck, I would personally go for number 1 but it's up to u darling
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reader, Big boy +, writes (8 January 2007):
 I think that the next time he sends you a text don’t reply if he calls you don’t pick it( try it for a bit), for all you know is that he is confused. To tell you the truth may be there is some one else may be. (am not saying there is) and then when ever he feels that she is not what he wants or have a problem, he comes back to you telling you he misses you and all that... don’t do that be blank for a bit towards him... see what he is playing at if he comes to you and ask you why your acting the way you are... tell how you feel... he need to explain him self, because he’s messing with your heart, that’s not good at all..( if he is in love with you why is he not with you, may be he is just missing you, who knows after he’s childish act he will come back to he sense or may be not.)
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