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writes:I came from a pretty wealthy family. Not over the top, but quite comfortable. My parents really want me to marry someone that will provide me with a comfortable lifestyle. I'm planning to move in with my boyfriend, but he doesn't have money (but not in debt). He plans to go back to school and I'm afriad my parents will disapprove of us. I will be working and providing the living expense while he goes to school. I can see my parents not letting me move out with him. What should I do?
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reader, primadonna20 +, writes (8 January 2007):
 well, if i was in that situation i would follow my instincts. like is this guy for real? does he really care for me? is there a real future? or does he just want a sugar momma to take care of him and then dump them when he doesnt need them.. u know?? therefore i say follow ur heart.. u seem smart so just really think it through.. ps ur parents just want the best for u!!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 January 2007):
 I think it would be helpful to know how old you guys are, how long you've been together, whether you are absolutely sure that you want to pay for everything, and whether you are sure that your boyfriend isn't using you for a meal ticket.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (8 January 2007):
 I think you should listen to your parents because they want the best for you. I mean it's lovely to have a sweety boy but you have to think about yourself too, are you sure that you do not want to go to college? are you sure you want to pay the expenses when it is not sure that the thing will work I mean uni means studying, party meetin new people and fun so you will be paying for him gettin a degree and having fun while you are in a not real good job doing the responsible wife, while he behaves like a teen, I mean waht happens if he drops u? what will u tell yourself then? I believe u really have to stop and think about your future even if you move together u should both work and pay hafl expenses and u both should have spare time to study or do things you like I hope I don't seem so realistic
good like honey and be nice to your family they love and care about you
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reader, Big boy +, writes (8 January 2007):
 Think carefully before you do anything, no disrespect to your boyfriend, he’s a man every man like’s to play the man’s role of responsibilities you need to let him handle situations for him self. I feel that you as a person look at the long run, well you know him better than any body... think carefully before taking any steps, support him but don’t let him be dependant on you, coz it could get to the stage that he would be asking you for money and it would get on your nerves, ( It’s education if you believe that your money would not be put to waste and you believe that when he’s on his feet he can support you some day hopefully... sounds like a good plan...) Know who you are dealing with... the world is not as nice as it seems...
Best of luck
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