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writes: Hey i need help, My boyfriend broke up with me recently because he thought we were drifting apart after we got out of school. He told me that we should just be friends and after that he stopped texting me. Now he is texting me a lot and putting hearts. I am not sure what this means. Most times he responds quickly. I am kind of confused, When we were together he used to sent me long paragraphs about how i am important and so lucky. He made me believe that he loved me a lot, he also told me that we would last long. He always wanted to hang out with me but i would say no because my mom wouldn't let me. I thought he would understand that. I honestly don't know why he broke up with me. Do you think he was messing with me or or did he mean everything he said and actually thought we were drifting apart?
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (30 June 2017):
 Yes he meant everything he said when you were together, but for what purpose I do not know... yes you are drifting apart because that’s what happens at your age, and right now he is messing with you by texting and putting in hearts... because he has no-one else and he knows you still care for him.
You can certainly be friends if you can handle seeing him with another girl knowing he’ll be smooching with her as he did with you. Or if you can handle him using you (as a friend, NO touchy feely business) in the meanwhile until he finds someone else to play with. But I doubt that kind of friendship very much.
Again at this age it’s expected you’ll drift apart, find, and explore new things, mix with other people.
For now your Mom is right about him, as he should have understood and respected that, even at his age if he truly wanted it to last a long time.
Any BF at any age who waits without pressuring you is generally a good catch. Yet very rare at your age because extra hormones are kicking in which lead guys/girls exploring other options!
Take Care – CAA
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (29 June 2017):
 Gosh! There is a whole lot of learning to be gleaned about relationships, friendship, and indeed about oneself, at his age. It is a lesson that never ends. I'm still learning and so are the other regular contributors to this site.
At the moment he is learning what it means to break up from someone one cares about. He is starting to realise what he has given up and the consequences of that.
You must decide if perhaps you are ready for the next person to come into your life or whether to give it another go with this boy. Chances are he will want to quit you again. But then again you might be together for who knows how long.
The decision is yours and decisions are empowering. You must remember that. By making your own decisions you steer your own boat. Right or wrong you are in control of your life not someone else.
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