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*ram
writes:hi dear uncle and aunts, im now in a lot of trouble and my rlationship is now on a verge of breakup. yesterday my bf sees me talking to another guy and broke up in anger .he is neither receiving my call nor coming online .he abused me and said you are a girl of loose character, you dont deserve to be love by anyone ,go enjoy your life sleep with him .i told him that it was just a conversation nothing else ,i convinced him a lot but all in worth.what to do to again brought him back in my life.how can i make him belive that i only love him a lot .
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 You can't say anything to a person who won't listen. He's made up his mind that you have a "loose character" and nothing you say, or do, will change that.
So don't say anything. Stop ringing him and if he comes online, ignore him. Let him think about what he has done to you. We let other people how we want to be treated by how we behave. If you behave as though you are the one that has done something wrong, he will treat you that way.
If he doesn't trust you then you have no basis for a relationship.
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reader, loveonce +, writes (11 April 2012):
 His this behaviour is a bit extreme,Possessiveness is one thing that happens,but once the things has been properly explained then the thing should return to normal.You should try to convince him by meeting him,at some time.And a word of caution as other answers here contain,that if the boy is deserving only then try hard,otherwise,things will be problematic in future or at your workplaces/college where you will be communicating with many other ones.
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 What you have actually described is an opportunity for you to get out of this relationship. He is very possessive and if you remained together I doubt he would stop there. This is a sign of things to come. You really don't need him in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2012): You take this as your lucky escape. You're a young woman and you should not be treated like this at all, he will never change and it will only get worse and as CindyCares has said, you will become his PRISONER and nothing more.
Don't call him anymore, if he really loved you back then he would not treat you this way regardless of any religion or tradition.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 I know this is not the advice you wanted to hear, but I would not do ANYTHING to bring him back in my life, in fact I'd congratulate myself for having escaped an inevitable relationship disaster. How can any relationship go on, based on this total mistrust, paranoid jealousy, and overbearing possessivity ? You would be his prisoner , his slave, not his gf or wife. You could not even talk to any other male without triggering a drama- you'd be walking on eggs all the time, afraid that somebody might have the bad idea of complimenting you , or smiling at you , because he'd take it out on you, it would be your fault for your "loose " ways.
Come on, do you really want to go back to the days of purdah ? I know that in India male/ female interaction is still somewhat traditional, but... there's a limit to everything !
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