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writes:my ex-broke up with me over a text msg and told me that he has been cheating on me. im pregnant with his child that he wanted with me...everyone i talk to dont think that it wont last with them because the girls a skank and her relationships dont last that long...do u think he'll try coming back to me when it wont work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): We can't tell you if he will come back, dear. I want to tell you something. Your future has now changed..in a most remarkable, but very challenging way. You are going to be a Mother. Raising a child is a huge undertaking and this child will need a set of committed, loving parents. You may or may not get this from him. I want you to be strong and resourceful and start making plans for this baby. You need to begin the process of putting your child's well being over your own wants. If the father of your baby has cheated on you, it sounds like he is in a very 'immature, unthinking, self-involved phase' of his life. We don't know if he'll always be this way or if he'll outgrow this. I have seen many young men suddenly 'snap out' of their philandering ways to be awesome fathers and good partners. It's a growth period. He may come to realize that his love for his own child, can make him a better person. But right now he's not in that frame of mind and we don't if he ever will be. My suggestion is for you, to start making mature and serious plans for this baby, to ensure that you and this child, are financially and emotionally taken care of. If you have a job, start saving. If you need financial assistance, seek out some, from gov't agencies that can help. But very importantly, you will need love and support from family and close friends. Call on them for help. If you have a Mother, Aunts, Sisters..anyone you are close to, ask for their emotional support and guidance. As for the father of your child...if he comes back, give your child a father but ensure he is mature and ready for the huge task. If he isn't...then the best thing to do is ensure he pays you adequate child support for the next 18 years, until this child reaches adulthood. I am sorry, we cannot tell you what he will do. All you can do now, is keep yourself healthy and in the best most positivie frame of mind for the sake of this child. Good luck, sweety and I wish you the best.
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reader, SouthernBelle +, writes (27 March 2008):
 If I were you I wouldn't take him back or even consider it. You may be pregnant with his child but he cheated on you and is with another woman. If you did take him back and he was still running around cheating when your baby comes thats not the kind of lifestyle you want to bring your child into. I would work on finding somebody thats willing to help with your child and will not cheat on you. It may be hard seeing as how you are pregnant with his child and still have feelings for him but he's not somebody you want your child around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): there is a possibility, but if i was you i wouldnt take him back, he cant come and go whe he feels like it. but seems though you both have a child on the way, you cant exactly not let him see the child, when the baby comes along you should alow him to see the baby and be a father figure and posibly things might start to work with you but what ever disision you decide to make dont rush in to anything. and deffintly dont let him play you around!
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