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writes:my boyfriend broke up with me and told me that he wants us to remain to be just friends. he broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. we dated for about 4 weeks. throughtout the time we dated he told me that he likes me alot. we were friends for a year and a half before we started dating. i really fell in love with him during the weeks that we dated. when he told me he wanted us to be friends i was devastated. i feel like i really really love him. i cried so much since he left me. a guy who has been my friend all along asked me to be his girlfriend and i agreed. so i am now dating this guy. the thing is i lost my virginity to this new boyfriend a week ago. i had sex with him because i felt like he wanted me and my last boyfriend rejected me. now my ex is telling me that i threw him away because i am going out wit this guy. what do i do? i really want him back. do u think he wants me back?
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reader, helpme!! +, writes (3 January 2008):
helpme!! is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks very much for your advice
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reader, loops  +, writes (29 December 2007):
Two things I picked up on in your question1) the fact your ex says you threw him away is pure rubbish, he got rid of you, therefore you have the right to see who you like and if he wanted you around that much/ didnt want you seeing anyone else and so on hed have stayed with you, hes either trying to make you feel guilty or is feeling guilty himself because hes now lost you so "playing up" for your attention. Don't fall into it, ignore everything he says unless he is civil, its not worth worrying over.2) Only other thing being you said you slept with this guy because he made you feel wanted, and your ex didnt, I find this slightly worrying as one word sprung to mind when I read it " rebound". I feel you should maybe give yourself time single for a while, you were clearly very upset by the breakup and Im presuming not expecting it, and as a result like anyone would (so its not a critisism) youve looked for comfort, some people go for chocolate/ friends, youve gone for another man, and in that situation it's bound to end in tears. Im not saying you should finish with this man immediately but take a step back and make sure he is what you want and your not just looking for someone to help you get over what this seemingly very immature idiot has done to you.Good luck hun
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): Hi Hunny,
Well he really should have thought about that before now shouldnt he love, The answer to your question hunny is give it time give yourself time to see what you really want, Did you go out with your b/f (the one now)because you do really like him or for security as you felt very regected? And did you sleep with him for the same reason? As this can be quite normal when you have had an upset of this nature as you just want to feel loved. Its not the answer really as its to soon.
If you dont really want to be with this one then you shouldnt be for the wrong reasons love but dont go running back to the other one straight away think what you need first get it all straight in your head.
He cant just finish it and as soon as someone else comes along want you back it messes with your head sweetheart ive been there!!!!!!!I hope this helps a little Take care with love n hugs mandy xxxxxxxxx p,s anytime u need a chit chat message me ok dont feel down alone xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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