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writes: I have a boyfriend, and we've been going out for around a month. he says he loves me, and will never hurt me. the problem is he never calls. i only get to talk to him when we are both instant messaging each other. he is in my science, and american studys class at school though...so i get to see him there. does he really love me? Reply to this Question
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reader, XAsk-AmyX +, writes (29 December 2007):
 seriously i went through the exact same thing. the only time we ever spoke on the phone was when i called him, and even then the conversations werent all that great.So i broke up with my boyfriend because of it, but im really not advising this because i miss him like mad. But it's different now, we speak so much, he rings me too and we go out a lot more.Then again all this just makes it so much more difficult cause we're only friends now and thats all we will ever be.not sure whether this helped or if it was just a random ramble but maybe just tell him he needs to make the effort more.OR if you'd prefer the life of just being good friends with him and nothing more then do what i did and end it, just make sure you won't regret it first.you wouldnt like to be in the situation i'm in:))
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reader, loops  +, writes (29 December 2007):
hmm, tough one. My ex was like this, didn't call and I'd only get a decent conversation out of him over msn. He was that wrapped up in his games and stuff I hardly saw him.My biggest suggestion is to voice your fears. After a month I cant comment on the love thing, love takes time, but as for the way he is with you that may just be force of habbit and if you speak to him and ask him if you can spend more time together, you may just make him realise what hes doing.Try your best to be as calm as possible and not yell, it may not be a purposely done thing to avoid you, he just may be used to that kind of relationship. so just ask. If he isnt willing to change and you need more than hes giving you then maybe you should both look elsewhere before you get frustrated with each other.Good luck
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