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writes:my ex broke up with me 3 months ago. At the time we were working together and i got laid off shortly after. During these 3 months he would call me like once a week (if even that) just to see how i was doing. I just went back to the job two weeks ago and now all of a sudden he acts like some kind of bodygaurd to me. He's ready to fight any guy who looks my way, sits with me on my breaks, and he's told me that he still loves me twice. I don't understand this wierd behaviour, all of a sudden, especially since he's the one that broke off the relationship and we're both doing our own thing. He just gets pissed when he sees other guys flirt with me at work. I dont undrestand it
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reader, baby blue fairy  +, writes (31 March 2007):
hey maybe hes rethinking breaking up with you as hes realizing he cant go on alone as he thought he would but its up to you really do you want him back? if not you should tell him to back off and get on with his own life it may sound harsh but its the only way to get him off your back but if you do want him around then tell him so! best of luck xxx (tell me how it goes ) hopefully you both get a happy ending xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): Maybe he regrets breaking up with you. But don't feel as if you have to get back with him just because of this. As for being prepared to fight off any guy that looks your way that's not fair on you. Maybe he feels that because he broke off the relationship that you still want one with him. Tell him politely but firmly that whereas you still want to be mates with him that you don't see any chance of being with him again. Hopefully he'll get the message and back off from your next potential boyfriends. After all, you don't want him fighting your soulmate do you?...
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reader, Lia +, writes (31 March 2007):
 The funny thing is that despite telling you he loves you, HE'S the one who broke up with you! Okay, obviously he's jealous of other guys being around you, but he is the one who chose not to be with you anymore, so he can't expect to now have a hold on you. What strikes me as interesting is that he hasn't said he wants to be back together though. That should show you what he thinks: even if you're not his, he can still have his way by keeping you single. That's not fair on you! Tell him that it's not on. He can't have things both ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): Dear, he dumped you! All this is--is he misses you but geez, don't be flattered by that. If he's not making any moves to say "let's get back together-I want to be back in your life-I made a mistake-I'm sorry"-don't fall for his little game. He's s still the guy who dumped you 3 months ago. All his behaviours are saying is---he finds you a nice comfortable, soothing pacifier for his needy feelings of loss and lonliness- that is--until someone else comes along. Some women find this type of behaviour so flattering and irresistable. I hope you don't because it's not...he's controlling your life, he's angry, jealous and feeling entitled. Not the character traits of a mature, great guy! This is not a guy who really wants to be with you, hun because men who love women don't break up with them. Simple as that. Give him his walking papers, ignore him at work, no calls, no texts and tell this guy ..it's done. You are moving on to greener pastures. Be strong and best of luck,
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (31 March 2007):
 Do you want him back? If so, it's time to tell him that he either has to get back together with you or just butt out of your life. If you don't want him, then tell him that, too. Either way, you don't want a chaperon for life.
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