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writes:okay, so heres the deal: there is this guy, he says hes straight, had a girlfriend, and I really like him. He knows it, he told me that if he was gay he would be interested in being with me. Were really good friends and I've heard rumors that he's "gay" or "bi" or whatever, and always had my suspicions. But never knew what to think. so a few weeks ago he broke up with his girlfriend, and he is now single, completly. So we were talking, and I was just like "ha, whats up?. ect ect" and hes just like "not a lot, just thinking a lot." and then he got to the point and told me that it was about me, "kind of". He actually flat out told me he's "Bi-curious" I was so happy, because I thought we might actually have a chance. but...Its not working out like that. its like nothing at all changed. I know I just kind of assumed that since he's "bi curious" that he wanted ME. but he has told me before that this was the case! I dont know, I want to be with him so bad, even if it dosnt work. at least then i know i did everything i could, that way all the "what-ifs" would be out of the way. But i dont know if we should, or even if he wants to. I dont know, advice is loved. please help me.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (5 March 2009):
 He is still young I presume and needs to come to terms with his sexuality. You should hang out with him and just let things role. Don't make any advances to soon. Once you both start getting more confedent with each other then you can make advances on to him but only when you think its the right time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): You could envite him over to talk,and lear him in.I think it will just be a spring to summer fling,and he may not wont others to know what you guys are doing.B/c hes not exactly telling everyone hes bi.It doesn't really seem promissing,but you already know that.I wouldn't do it just for the reason I don't wont to be with a fling even if it would last for a while,I'd wont an open relationship where my friends at least would know who I'm with.I'm bi like him,I'm 20 yrs old and a guy,and If I was with a guy I'd want it on the down low or let my out side circle of friends know,that all ready know,but as for my inner circle that guys not going to meet them.It will last for a while,but not forever.Unless you really make him fall for you,but will you devote that much time.You'd have to go over-board to an extent of course.And it still may fail it would with me.
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reader, Tara53 +, writes (4 March 2009):
Hello hun, its good that you still want to try even if it doesnt work cuz this could end very badly, thats the more likely result but who knows. Thing is the guy isn't sure about what he wants or even what being with another guy feels like. To help him and get closer why don't you offer to show him whats it like? Don't be meek about it, take control but just don't take it too far.
If that even helps, good luck
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