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writes:im in desprate need of some sort of help!ive been with him for nearly 3years and i just feel so helpless right now. i love him but i know love only is not a valid reason to stay with him..we're each others first gf/bf, first kiss, first hug but most of all first heartbreak!! when things are going well his the most adorable thing and i cant ask for anyone better but when things are bad then they pretty are, shouting and crying i feel like i have nothing left to hold on to.he cheated on me, gave into the temptation and had a one-night stand because i belive in sex after marriage. i said i never would but my whole world was shattered and after constant begging and crying for months i forgave him and now it feels like i cant forgive myself for forgiving him! he betrayed me and i cant trust him anymore.if there was a way i would do anything to spend the rest of my life with him but its not possible and i can see that! everything was perfect he was madly in love with me and i dont see where things went wrong... i really wish i could go back in time and start our relationship all over again coz right now i feel like were not going anywere! when we break up it only lasts 2weeks i miss him like crazy and he wont leave me so we end up getting back together.i know the right thing to do is to leave but i dont have the strenght. he really is my weak point, when i see him upset i cant bare it, i cant walk away from him so keep on going back and forth! his not a bad person despite everything i know he loves me but this isnt a healthy relationship anymore.We live only 5mins away from eachother and attend the same uni i know this may seem silly but i cant stand the idea of bumping into him and not been able to say hello or even worse seen him with someone else in a few years time even thinking about it really hurts.i wish there was a easy way out of this or anything that can ease my pain a little coz right know i feel so helpless
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reader, Jjang19  +, writes (3 March 2011):
First of all, I would just like to make a point i've made to several other people on this site. Sex after marriage worked 50 years ago, however, unless you are totally isolated from all media outlets, (and since you have internet, that is not the case), sex will come up over and over again. And really, there is nothing wrong with it as long as you are protected. Infact, about 60% of people in their 20's believe a relationship isnt even a relationship until you've had sex. A one night stand with someone is unforgivable and for that I believe you should leave them, but take it as a message, perhaps, find someone else who you really connect with and learn to have fun because when it comes down to it, this life is about having fun and sex = pleasure = fun. Loosing your virginity before your 18 i still see as wrong but at your age it should be fine, your old enough to control your life
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