We broke up, she says she hasn't moved on, but is she lying?

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

i have been in a relationship for more than six years...we were together for 3.5 years and then went into a long distance relationship for two years....then again we were together for an year and then i had to go for higher studies and so for the past 8 months i have been in a different town...we were in a very loving relationship...we used to fight but we made sure we set things right at the end of the fight...i felt that we were the closest when we made up after each fight as it made me feel that these fights and stuff cannot separate us. When i was in college for the past 8 months we started missing each other...she started feeling that i was not giving her much time...we had fights and most of the time they were unresolved. I now accept the blame as i did not handle the situation the way i should have done...i also feel that she dinot handle the situation properly...she has now fallen out of love and has broken up with me....she broke up with me this January..she said she needs time and she wants a break...i have tried to explain that falling out of love should not be the end of the relationship...i have said that i have realized my mistakes and we can work upon things and make things alright...but she doesn't care anymore now...she does not want to give this relationship another try as she feels that she will not be happy with me and she says she does not have any reason for saying so. she says she does not love me anymore....she calls me once a day and has asked me not to call her or pester her.....i do not call her much as she does not like it...should i just move on.....she says she has moved on....she says that i everything about me is great and she likes me and respects me and her family loves me a lot but she just does not want to give things a try....she says it was probably meant to be like this and saying i should accept it...one month after the break up that is in february end i asked if there is anything that she wants to tell me and she has not...she said that she likes an old friend of hers but she is not in love or anything.....around 10 days after that i saw here friends teasing her on a social netwrorking site about this new guy...when i asked her she said that they are just teasing and there isnothing between them but it is something that may happen soon..she said that she could sense it coming....they also meet regularly....is she lying to me that there is nothing? she had said in jan that she has moved on but recently when i said that we should meet she vehemently said no saying that she has not moved on....i have had my final talk but i wanna know if there is more to it then i know and if she is lying to me

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