He always flirts with girls, but I thought he found me special. He is so confusing, please help!

A female age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Okay so there's been this guy I have liked for a few months now. We are extremely close, and always open up to each other. He has a reputation as a ladie's man, he always flirts with girls and then leads them on. All my friends thought he liked me, and alot of people thought we were going out. He always asks my friends who I like. I told him I was upset at a guy I liked. The next day he was talking to one of my best friends about it, and he said "she's upset about a guy she likes, which I know is me by the way". Then my friend overheard him talking to a girl (who apparently told him that I liked him) and he said "hooking up with me wouldn't be a waste," then saying how he kind of liked this other girl. He told me he flirts to give himself confidence and pretty much pours his heart out to me. I always thought he found me special because he tells me so much, and I always open up to him too. I was so angry and so I confronted him, however I didn't do it directly, I said how I wanted to confront the guy I liked and he said "well do it to me... might be the same." The thing is, he always does sweet things for me and it makes me melt inside. Now I'm starting to think all this deep stuff he tells me is a lie? Apparently he has known that I like him for a while, but it was only the other day that he did something extremely sweet. Why has he been doing this? He is so confusing! Please help!

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