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writes:Hey there! I am totally dissatisifed with my life (place where I live, job...) and would like to change it. I'd love to move abroad (my bf lives there already) and start a new life there. Problem is my dad went all psycho and angry on me when I told him I wanted to live my life and move, quittin my sucky job and all. He said I'll regeret it and end up alone, single and jobless. It was terrible. Have you ever done something against you parents' will? I mean, I'm 30 and shouldn't care about my dad that much... Just wanted to know whether you've been though your dad/mom not approving of your bf and life-changing decisions and how you delat with it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): I always take my parents' advice on board because they do have my best interests at heart, even if my dad, like yours, ends up shouting it at me, rather than just explaining it calmly like an adult.
But don't just listen to him, ask your friends and the rest of your family for advice as well, and then decide for yourself. make sure you have thought this decision through, i'm not saying you shouldn't go for it and have an amazing experience, but definately think about the consequences, and make sure you save up plenty of money because moving abroad can be very expensive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): I am 30 and I am about to move down south which is about an hour and halfs drive to come back to visit which is fine. My mum wasn't happy when I told her my plans. I have been through alot over the last 6 months, been hurt really badly and need to make a better life for me and my 15 month old son. I tried to keep things to myself not telling my mum how I really felt but in the end I had to. I told her that I was doing this for me and my son and noone else and that I would be back to visit regular. See she dosen't come to see me that often and considering the rough time I have had hasn't really been there for me so I told her all this. Told her I needed to get away and move to a different area, it just so happens that I have family where I am going and I will be able to transfer in my job too. I want to go where noone knows my business and what has happened. I finally got her to understand after telling her how I really felt and that seems to have worked and she has accepted my decision. I know it's hard but if this is really what you want then try and make your dad understand why you have to make this move, tell him you will be back to visit regular and he will also be able to come visit you too, I know this is the last thing you need when you are set on what you want but it is best to try and get his approval has it will make you feel much better about your move. Really hope you can sort things out with him and he can understand why you need to make this move. Good Luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much, you all!! Yeah, well, I could come back but then my dad will be here waiting for me pointing his fingers saying "Told ya"... but whatevz! I want to live the dream!!! Thank youuuu!!
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 I started when I was a teenager. Now, I listen to their advice more, but don't always follow it to the letter. At this point, I am well-equipped to weigh things out for myself and decide what is best.
Just because you move and try to set up a new life, doesn't mean you can't come home again.
Good luck.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (19 September 2011):
 Life is too short not to grab opportunities, so go for it!!! Your dad seems very possessive of you, but you're 30, not 13!!
You could really make something of yourself, maybe consider some new career opportunities. Make the most of it and start living life!!
Best of luck in your new adventure :)
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reader, MistressNataliee +, writes (19 September 2011):
I am 18 and going out with an older man who treats me amazing and I am so happy with. My mum was fuming at first and went mental but she gave him a chance, decided she really liked him and is now so happy seeing me so happy. You should really think of yourself. It's your life, you're only one, not a trial or anything. You're 30 also. Old enough to make your own mistakes if the case may be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): Like you say, you are 30. Do whatever you want. If it goes wrong, your dad will help you pick up the pieces. If he's a good father he will support you and want you to be happy. Moving and living abroad can be amazing, I've done it several times and learned so much. He sounds either overprotective or controlling. Either way, you're an adult and he has to let go.
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