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writes:I am just curious how frequently people cheat or get cheated on? By partners, fiances, spouses? And if you have cheated, why did you do it? Is cheating unavoidable in long term relationships? Do all partners get bored at some point?
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (14 July 2009):
 To clear things up. I am not with the married man anymore.
i felt guilty being the other woman, but it does come down to your own moral values. What do you believe in.
I think most people are hurt because the trust and honestly is broken...not the actual act itself. just my 2 cents but i could be wrong.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (14 July 2009):
to be honest. I was in a 13 year relationship and never cheated. Now i'm single and with a man who is cheating on his wife. I've come to the conclusion that monogamy is not natural feeling for people. It's like eating the a hamburger every single day. No matter how you loved it before, eventually you will get sick of it.
You want variety in your food,...and when it comes to relationship..being with the same person forever gets boring.
What if... just what if we are still have the animal instinct to pre create and its in our dna to have sex often and with a lot of different people.
I know a lot of people will disagree but I've come to accept that people cheat because they can.
Right or wrong, society says one person to be faithful to forever! Anything else is a sin. But is that realistic??
There a billions of people in this world. And society says your heart can only love and be with one person. ...FOREVER!!!! HMMMM.... men cheat... women cheat...to get our own needs met.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (14 July 2009):
to be honest. I was in a 13 year relationship and never cheated. Now i'm single and with a man who is cheating on his wife. I've come to the conclusion that monogamy is not natural feeling for people. It's like eating the a hamburger every single day. No matter how you loved it before, eventually you will get sick of it.
You want variety in your food,...and when it comes to relationship..being with the same person forever gets boring.
What if... just what if we are still have the animal instinct to pre create and its in our dna to have sex often and with a lot of different people.
I know a lot of people will disagree but I've come to accept that people cheat because they can.
Right or wrong, society says one person to be faithful to forever! Anything else is a sin. But is that realistic??
There a billions of people in this world. And society says your heart can only love and be with one person. ...FOREVER!!!! HMMMM.... men cheat... women cheat...to get our own needs met.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): I cheated once during my fifteen year marriage. It wasn't random, but almost like I developed feelings for this other man who happened to be single. It was a friends turned to lovers sort of thing. It has only been 3 weeks since we slept together and I think about him all the time. We text little and I find myself hurt and angry if I don't hear from him after a few days. I want to be with him again, but I don't feel right initiating it since I am the one married. I never thought I would ever be in this position- but here I am. I want to forget about it in a way, but the other part of me longs for his kiss and touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): ive cheated several times, i think at the start
it was lonliness then it became i liked the attention, im seeing a married man and have been for about 8 years, i know he sees others and i still see the occasional, guy its all about the fun and the excitement on both are parts, yet there is a great connection between us both, we both have the same outlook on life. wish id have met him many years ago
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reader, dr.2.be +, writes (12 July 2009):
 I have been cheated on twice before. But I have also cheated. Although my boyfriend never found out, I really don't want to do it again. Cheating made me feel really guilty. =/
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): I have both been cheated on, and cheated. I was devastated when I was cheated on and up until that point had been completely blind to any guys other than my boyfriend. After that point, I found I was no longer blind to the temptation of others. I'm not sure if being cheated on was the reason for that, or if it just happened to coincide with the point I 'blossomed' and became more involved with the opposite sex.I cheated in a later relationship, It was an awful relationship and while that is no excuse to condone cheating, the reason I felt was because I was not getting what I needed from my boyfriend at the time. He did not treat me well and after a couple of years of trying as hard as I could to improve things, to make him show me he cared I simply began to look for that affection elsewhere. I am an attractive girl and it seemed everyone but him thought so, so I spitefully kissed other boys when I would go out. It was weak and I was weak. It was a quick fix, taking the cowardly way out rather than just leaving the relationship then and there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): Yep been cheated on and Its a nasty and heart breaking experience.Happened twice and another time where he didn't actually sleep with the girl but kissed and said he loved her so I count that as cheating.
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reader, MonicaC +, writes (11 July 2009):
 I have been cheated on twice in my life, and it was extremely painful the second time around because I was genuinely and completely in love with the man who cheated on me. I don't know that anyone gets over it very easily, and I will never understand why it's so easy for some people to do it. Loyalty means everything to me, and if I love someone, I simply cannot cheat on them. My body and mind and heart will not allow it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): I have never cheated on anyone. Neither have my siblings. If my parents have cheated, then I never knew about it. Same for my aunts & uncles. And grandparents. One of my cousins has been cheated upon but he didn't do the cheating himself.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (11 July 2009):
If you come to a site for people with love problems then you are going to find that nearly everyone has cheated or been cheated on.
This is like going to a site for car crash victims and asking what they think about driving skills and how common bad drivers are.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Fifteen +, writes (11 July 2009):
ive been cheated on and cheated with:/ but id never cheat on anyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): hey PLEASE READ in early days and still now pepole have 2 "partners" in africa its ok to have 2 wives and its ok to have relationships with two pepole or that one will quickly loose value now I KNOW this SOUNDS wrong but is NOT by doing so you are preseving the other now there IS a POINT only do so for a month or 2 other wise you will lose complete intrest
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): I cheated.I recently posted a question days ago about me still in love wih my whom i left. But i never made anything offical with the new guy until i left the boyf at the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): i've been there sadly. cheated on actually.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/wife-had-affair-dont-know-what-to-do.html
i now realize that in almost every relationship at least one of the partners is going to cheat at some point. the key is recognizing that and getting over it.
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