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reader, renee09 +, writes (22 February 2009):
 i have been involved with a man who is 17 years older than me.we met when i was 20 years old and he was 37. in the beginning everything was great ,and he had a way of making me feel i was the only woman in the world. i got a lot of stares, and people talking, but i didn't care i loved him. at the time i was just so tired of how the young guys were treating me that i thought it was maybe a maturity issue. so i thought i had found a way to somehow bi-pass all of that and get straight to being loved, and treated the way i wanted with no interference, or at least i thought.so when i met him and he tried to talk to me i decided to give it a shot. maybe this was my chance to have a man who really knew how to treat a woman because he seemed so much more mature than the others. i wanted to also show him that i to was different and i wasn't after him for his money. i actually was here for love, and that's something that can't be bought. i showed him that you don't have to pay someone to be with you or feel that you have to try harder just because of your age. he would tell me things like like "i have never met a woman like you." he made me feel so good. soon everything changed and the lies started coming and the names started to get called. the whole time while i was boosting his self-esteem he was doing everything in his power to break me down. i felt as if that was his only goal after a while. he started emotionally abusing me. calling me useless and worthless. after awhile he broke me down so bad that i actually started believing it. i didn't recognize myself anymore, and i really didn't recognize him anymore. see i made the mistake of believing that just because he was older he would be more mature, and more careful with my heart. i soon learned that age is nothing but a number, and just because they are older it doesn't mean they are automatically wiser, more mature, and will treat you better than someone your own age. because you might just find out that the grass isn't greener on the other side. Now im not telling you that all older people are like this im just telling you my experience. My advice is to let you know you should go in to any relationship no matter the age by having realistic expectations, knowing what you yourself want out of person, recognize the signs of a person who isn't equipped to give you what you need, and know when to give up and move on. Trust me you don't want to make the same mistake i did. I hope that helped with any decisions you may have. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): yes im 15yrs old and im dating someone the love of my life who is 35yrs old. the oldest ive dated was 37yrs old. age is just number forget about the number and put your feelings first.
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reader, scorpian lady  +, writes (11 January 2009):
What can i say, firstly if my daughter (18 years old) came home with anyone even 5 years older than herself i would not be happy. Having said that i started dating her dad when i was 15 years old and he was 34. I had my daughter when i was 22 and two sons' (when i was 25 & 28). We were happily married for many years. Our relationship came to an end when i was 38. Manly because as an older man he was controlling, i never ticed at first, i was young and so just looked to him for guidance. As i wanted more independence he became more controlling, whih pushed me away. I can honestly say if he had given me the space to 'grow' we'd have been together today. His fear of loosing me was actually the downfall of our relationship. I had to 'chage' grow up and he was not prepared for that. We are now friends but i could never go back. i have changed too much. Maybe it can work but i reckon on the whole age gap relationships do not last beuse you start out with an unequal relationship which tends to remain that way. Hope this long winded (sorry) reply helps
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reader, pastfirst +, writes (4 January 2009):
 You are very young so I wouldn't advise you to date older men!
I have children your age and would not approve.
In general, age is just a number and as one gets older, if we're attracted to the person, what does age matter?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): i was in a 10yr age difference relationsip.
he was 26 i was 16. he loved me, i loved him. he died in a car accident 5 months ago. it hurts and it wouldnt of mattered if it was only 2yr difference. love is love.
love is blind. it knows no number. being scared of getting in trouble with the law and my parents we kept it to ourselves..now i have to cope with the pain by myself. not wanting to believe he is dead. DONT let people tell you how you feel who cares what they think of you...you know how you feel and no one else will. age differences dont matter. if ou guys are meant to be it will last... if you are underage..i suggest you tell your parents. trust me from experience. if they dont let you obey them.. and if he loves you he will wait for you...and if its love it will be there. please please be careful tho.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): i've been married to a man 9 years younger than me for 10 years. We love each other very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Young women have a real habit of wanting this one both ways. They want to be accepted as a grown man's suitable partner at first when it looks like fun, but they don't want to give up their claim to sympathy for being "too young for him" later when they get taken advantage of or something.
If you say you want to date a grown man and that it's appropriate for you to do so, then you're saying you're his equal. That means equal full responsibility for your actions as if you were his age too. Please don't turn around and say he was wrong for dating you or he took advantage of your inexperience later on.
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reader, ilu9009 +, writes (3 January 2009):
 For the past 4 months i have been dating a guy in his 30's. We have loads in common and get along so well that i never even think about his age. I've always had a thing for older guys, its just my personal preference. Age is only what you make it out to be. If you like someone enough then get out there and go for it! You never know what you might be missing out on.
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reader, Justjones  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Hello,
I havent dated anyone this much older than me, But a close friend of mine has. They were married for five years or so, he was emotional abusive and controling. Im not sure what kind of man you have. But if you truly love eachother, age wont matter. But keep in mind both the pros and cons of the situation.
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