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anonymous
writes:I have a male friend who I met while we worked together. After our job was done we would chat constantly and I know he is always online and we flirt with each other. We have been talking this way since January and he usually gets on his phone to chat with me or the other day he stayed up to keep me company while I finished up something for school or will awake and say good morning to me.I know he is attracted to me even if he is 31 and I am 23. He has hinted at me he is and I am attracted to him, but we have not openly said it.Yet he has not been online for 4 days. I would think something was wrong with his computer , but he would tell me and besides he used his phone to chat with me...So I am thinking I may have upset him or he got bored of me?I don't pursue males, but I have been worried about him. I am thinking that maybe he got tired of me ? What would make a guy disappear all of a sudden? The last conversation was normal... I don't think anything happened to him, but what would make him disappear? He is a very direct man and it is not like him to not be upfront.I've also thought of calling his phone and hanging up of he picks up... Just to see if he is okay.Sincerely, I am not a psycho! I'm just confused that we are such good friends and confidants and he disappears?
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (27 April 2012):
There are many possible reasons why he hasn't contacted you. He could be sick for instance.
Since you guys have phoned before why don't you actually phone him and talk to him instead of testing if he responds.
I'd wait for another couple of days and then phone him. No big deal really. You're genuinely concerned. Nothing wrong in telling him that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): Being attracted to you doesn't mean the guy wants to date you or take anything further. Sounds like you aren't part of his personal life like similar group of friends and you don't hang out together or go out on dates. Perhaps he is doing that instead of being online?
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reader, lampshade69  +, writes (26 April 2012):
He could be busy (but it only takes a few seconds to send a text)If he isn't responding to your messages maybe you have become a little clingy without realizing it and he's decided to cool things. I think you should leave things for a while and wait for him to get in touch with you. I doubt you have done anything wrong he might simply be taking time out to spend time with other people/family. Don't send him any more messages, guys like to do the chasing, they don't generally like it if a woman comes on too strong/clingy it scares them off. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): Hi, the man may just be too busy to go online. Its only 4 days since you last spoke. Hes spoke to you in person, so that to me hints that he likes you. Start to worry if he doesnt contact you in say 3 weeks. You could always send an email, saying hi, how are you doing and wait for a reply.
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