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writes:me and my best friend have been really good friends for around three years now. We've helped each other through everything from bad breakups to illnesses and more recently through my grandmother's death. However a few weeks ago, we slept together. It was my first time. It didn't feel awkward, but was amazing. He even said that he had never felt like that before. I stayed the night at his house and everything was fine when i left for work in the morning. But since that morning he hasn't rung or texted or anything. WE used to talk at least once a day but nothing now. Have I spoiled our friendship? I don't understand what's wrong?
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reader, raiders  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Things have changed, you were his friend and now he has to decide if he wants you in his life as a girlfriend. Give him time and than give him a call, and at this point you too should give yourself a time out and think on what you want from him now.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Yeah, it's time for you to reach out and have a talk. Sex often changes things, but I believe that relationships founded on friendship have some of the best potential for lasting. I want my mate to be my best friend. I agree with CaringGuy that he's very likely in thinking mode and wondering the same stuff you are. If he's frozen at this moment, then maybe you have to snap him out of it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 August 2010):
He could well be in 'thinking' mode. Sometimes, men take time to process emotions and work out how they feel. He's thinking. Clearly, your friendship has changed. Maybe to something more, or maybe to something less. I think you need to text him and just say 'hi'. See what his response is.
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