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writes:I watched the guy i love ruin himself. he was the most intelligent, most funny, but he went down a path of drugs and completely destroyed himself slowly and my heart. these days i cant recognise him, literally. I'm completely over him.the thing is i've never really liked anyone after him, until now but all of a sudden all the emotion i felt towards the new guy dissapeared, just when i realised i do like him (more than a crush) even though i was starting to really like him he gave me butterflies and made me smile and everything. My question is will i ever love or really like again?? Or has he emotionally scarred me that badly??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually it happened three years ago so the soil's been barren for a long time, but maybe i'm not as completely over it as i thought...thanks though to both of you. But hes not dead.. well not yet.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Of course you will love again. Love is like one of that pesky, very tenacious, very resilient weeds, eventually it always sprouts out again even from what seems very dry, barren soil- even when one does not want to see it back again- imagine when one really wants to be in love again !
Just give yourself some more time. You are very young so this bad relationship you are talking about can't have happened ages ago. Maybe you need some more healing, it may take a little patience, but heal you will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): I went through the exact same thing when I was 12. My parents were all strung out on dope and we ended up moving into a crack house (seriously). Before we moved in, I had the BIGGEST crush on one of my older brother's friends, *Josh. He was (and to this day, honestly, still is; I'm 18 and that's saying a lot lol) the cutest guy I'd ever seen. Shortly after I moved in, I noticed that Josh would come by all of the time. One day he stumbled into the room I was sharing with my older brother and my housemate's two sons and daughter, sat in a chair, and just shot himself up with heroin. I was only 12 years old. I'd seen a lot given the way I was raised, but this totally threw me out of whack. He'd keep coming by to get shots of methadone from the mother of the other family when he couldn't afford Heroin. I'd see the guy passed out and/or shaking all over the place all of the time, at least once a week. Once, I was the only person awake while he was sleeping and I looked over and he wasn't breathing. He was dead, and I was the first person to figure this out.It's seriously, seriously f*kd up, but don't worry kiddo, it won't stop you from loving someone someday.
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