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writes:Did my boyfriend breakup with me????Me (22) and my boyfriend (25) were together for 1 year. We were really great together we connected in a way that made me fall in love for the first time in my life ( i had few boyfriends before him). He used to care about me; msgs every hour, calls me evryday tires to see me everyday. And he used to get jealous for even the minor stuff he didnt liek me getting a call or a msg0 which i didnt mind in a way because he made feel that he just wants me for him and that his way of loving me. Even when i went oversease he used to call me and msg me. Simple he used to make me feel that even in times when we were not together physically we were together emotionally- we were so close to each other- every move each one of us does the other knows about it before hand.Howver suddenyl 5 months ago i felt that connection is reducing, he msgs twice a day n calls once at night, however i didnt worry abut it thinking its just because we have been togtehr for few months especially because he still goes out of his way just to seem me (we live 1 hour away driving). But in the 2 months i felt dat this got worse and he kept telling me he is busy and all dis stuff anywaz long story cut short after how many converstaions we had about him changing with me he finally told me that he realsied that he is getting to attached to me and that he knows we cant be togther (we have different religion, n we both come from very religious families) so he decided to unattach from me slowly. He also told me that he started talking to this girl overseas in his home country because he wanst to get married- when i heard that i just said dats fair enough and i just walked off. From that day i stopped talking to hiom or msging him, howver the next day he called me at night i didnt pickupt den 2 days after he msged me, blaming me how i can forget him that easily, i then msged back n just said no but am busy wid uni anywaz he kept msging asking why am like dat with him n dat he cant live without me n when i explained to him I cant stay with him aymore since he is laready thinkin about breaking up, he started apologising and saying dat he only loves me. Anyway after all dis pleading i got back to him, but after 2 days he went back to his cold and ignoring nature with me and again afer 2 weeks i was just fed up with how he chnaged dats much with me so i decide to call him on at 12 am n he picked up and all he said i told ypu dnt get attached to me. So i realsied he was just playing with my feelings n I stopped talkin to him, after 3 days he msged me again n i just didnt reply back, then 2 days after i meged him abck telling him i cant contiune with him like this he wnats me and wants everything else at da same time n since our relationship has no future it cant have a present.He then msged back telling me dat my words are in his heart and he cant stay without me. Anywaz me still atached to him again started talking, howevre he was still da same he opnly msgs every few days and he never calls i do all da calling (not liek before he cant sleep without calling me), so last thurday i msged him explining my cncerns again and dat i feel his change is eithier coz he is not interested in me anymore or coz he has someone else in his life, so i just ended da msg telling him dat i will be thankful for his honesty. After dis msg I hvent heard from him for 7 days and i just dnt know wat does this silence mean- does it mean he broke up with me ???? (good to note we didn see each other 4 a month- coz whever we make plans he comes up n cancels it). Am just so lost i need an answer coz i still love him and i wana know were i satnd in his life now,I dnt know if I should call coz i mite seem too clingy for calling again after all dis. Please help thanx
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reader, kle7  +, writes (25 September 2008):
Congratulations! you're getting played!For real! he obviously has someone else in his life and he wants to keep you at arms length "just in case" cus he knows that you'll be there . My advice is that you don't return ANY of his txt msgs or calls and that you definitely don't call him anymore.It's time that you start controlling your life and not waiting on a guy to dictate it for you, because that's what's happening.Just move on and cut him from your life.
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