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writes:Hi Guys.Im 13 and my Ex - Girlfriend is 13 (she was a few monthes older than me). We went out for roughly 7 monthes and we loved eachother so much and called eachother everynight and i gave her roses and i was there for her anytime she needed me. Last week at school she said she had to tell me something at lunch (this was at recess). At Lunch time we met eachother were we said we would, she came up to me and hugged me (at this point i thought we where stepping up to the next level of our relationship) and she said, "I dont know how to tell you this but, I dont think i have feeling for you anymore, I went quiet and she said dont worry its not you, its me". So i walked of and was crying with a couple of friends and they where really supportive to me.The next day at school i was playing soccer. Some of her friends walked up to me and they said that my ex had to talk to me. I thought she was going to take me back. But she said she dumped me because she wasnt happy with the relationship and it was going nowere (I thought it was going great) and she also said it was because she had feeling for one of "MY" friends. The day after that she came up to me at recess and she said she would give me a 1 more chance. I was so happy but she had to tell my friend that liked her she was giving me one more chance. After school we were talking on msn and she said she was worried about my friend that liked her and she would decide over the holidays who she wants to go out with.Next day last day of school me and my friend had a fight and we both ignored eachother the whole day until after school when my ex told us that she loved us both equal amounts and would decide over the holidays. She hugged us both at the end of the day but when she hugged him it hurt me so bad like someone had smashed me in the stomach.Over the holidays she wanted me to call her and she told me that she loved me and i told her we should get back together and she said she would tell my friend she was giving me a chance again. And the next night the night before she said she would make a decision i was texting her until late at night and i told her i had to go to sleep. I fell asleep almost instanly after i said good night and she sent me text saying i need to talk and stuff while i was asleep and after that text she sent another one saying stop ignoring me or i'll choose the other guy.Next morning i woke and i saw the text and yelped in dis belief. I called her at about 11 and she answered and she was like you woke me up. And we where talking and we appologized to eachother and i was joking around sarcasticly and said stuff and she was like, "I hate you now" and she also went "Ive made my decision and its not you". And then she sent a text and said i will love you for ever no matter what. Meanwhile im crying my heart out because im soft in the heart and she says stuff like why arnt you talking to me and stuff. I really dont know what to do. I love her alot. I spent 24/7 talking to her and asking how she is and she dumps me for another man. I really want to know how i can get back with her. I think about her everyday and next term at school is going to be hard. Please i dont know what to do it feels like the world has ended. She left me with no one.I find it hard finding a girl that is nice. I have trouble finding woman because apparently im not "hot" but i always believed that love was about whats in your heart not looks.She is a really beautiful girl with her looks and her soul. I cant go hours without thinking about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): Hi there,I know how that goes,When i was in the eigth grade back in 1987,this girl gave me her phone number and it was on a Friday,we called each other back and forth the whole weekend and then that Monday we hung out togather most of the day and i got my first real kiss.The problem was the next day when i got to school i went to go and find her were she usually hung out in the school auditorium and there she was with another guys arm around her.He was way more muscular than me and taller too but i was so mad i didnt care and i walked up behind him and punched him as hard as i could in the back of the head.Needless to say she got up and ran away and he jumped up and wrestled with me a bit and then he got me to the ground and proceeded to beat the crap out of me till felow friends of both mine and his pulled us apart,Ironically ebnough they broke up 2 weeks later and obviously me and her never spoke again.Me and that guy actually became good frinds my senior year in high school.The moral of the story is that is just one girl there will be more and trust me,giving up your friend is not worth it either.If you never had a girl interested in you at all then there would be cause for concern.Good luck most of us even the cool kids have been there done that youll be allright.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): ims sorry but she sounds such a bitch shes playinf you off against each other cant you see that just ignore her for a couple od dais go out with sum other girls im 13 and me and ma friends would never dream of doing that to a boy
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reader, David#7 +, writes (26 September 2008):
David#7 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, Your putting a smile on my face already and helping me get over her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): I am really sad for you, David. But these things do happen. No one stays forever in a relationship they get into at 13.
Btw, if you are talking to her all day long and thinking of her all night long, I wonder when you get the time to study? That is the cheif purpose for which you attend school, I suppose.
Please don't let things like girls etc, affect you so much that it takes focus away from what is truly important. You might think this is such a waste, useless advice. But when you grow older, you will realize. Having a grlfriend at 13 is hardly important. having good grades is infinitely important.
Besides, if someone treated me the way this girl treats you, I'd have dumped him straight off! And more surprising is the fact that you and your friend hang on to what she says and wait for her big 'decision'.
Please pick up the phone and tell her to 'get lost!' Say you are worth 20 like her. You should respect yourself, only then can you expect respect from others. She's obviously got no respect for you, otherwise she wouldn't talk to you this way.
And about being 'hot'. That brought a smile to my lips :) I think, and this is totally my own opinion, that 13 is a little too young to be 'hot'. Check out whether you are hot at 18 or 19 :) I am sure you'd be!
Of course you are right about love being more important than looks, but this girl doesn't seem to know that. She is too vain and thinks no end to herself.
Believe me, you want to have nothing to do with a person like that! Do yourself a favour and just 'ignore her' completely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): This girl is playing with your head! Kids can be cruel at that age. I don't think she ever was going to chose you but was leading you on, trying to see your reaction. You need to stop letting her see you upset, that's not really a quality young girls look for in guys. Be strong and try to show her you don't care about her anyway, ignore her! she deserves it.
Your only 13, I wouldn't worry about finding another g/f.
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