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writes:Hi so this is my story...My Ex girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years..And one day we had this huge argument about her not giving me time and etc.. With this heated argument, she suddenly blurted out that she needed some space.. So I gave her a week, but along with this I was saying sorry to her the whole time and regretting what I have done to cause the argument.. After a week, we decided to talk at her place about us.. she told me that she's not ready for commitment and thus she enjoys her freedom away from me.. I cried knowing that she was out of my life and Keep on blaming myself... The first 2 weeks I was literally begging for her to come back into my life and patch things up... And she got angry at me and said that she doesn't wanna talk to me or have anything to do with me.. So clearly I was devastated.. It's been a month and I contacted her 2 days ago asking who she was and stuff.. and she still said the same thing to leave her alone and even blocked me on her facebook account.. Now, I learned that she likes this guy who is the opposite of me.. and I think they're dating and her friends and co workers likes this guy for her as oppose to me.. And I gave her everything,.. Like I spent money and a great deal of time for her.. I was very much inlove and still is... I really want her back despite what happened... I'm just confused of what to do because it really hurts me to see her with this other guy.. So my question is, "what Can I do to get her back"?.. Has she totally moved on and doesn't love me?.. What are the chances of me getting her back?..P.s.: She's a kind of girl that keeps secrets even from her closest friends.. and she's good at it...
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reader, boogie4  +, writes (13 October 2010):
Ahh my good friend. You may want to re-consider giving HER the opportunity to be with YOU. There's no reason one argument can completely end a relationship...in my past deals, its always a constant build up of fights until you have to call it quits.
If she is willing to still meet with you and talk to you you always have a chance. The deletion of the facebook account though seems she doesn't want any connection at all. I know that hurts too. But, in any case...you don't want to grovel back with someone who deleted you right? One argument doesn't deserve that treatment. Plus, she did say she's enjoying her freedom. The best way to combat that is with agreeing, then showing her YOU are the man she needs to be with. The only thing with this my friend is...it will TAKE TIME. Its hard. I know it is.
Now, you say you "heard" she was with some guy. How did you find out?
However, if it turns out that she's with some other guy, don't do anything. You wait. You do you. That other guy is not a serious thing. He's a rebound, a tool, someone to make you jealous, something to make her feel new and sexy and shit...but that's about it! They haven't gotten married or moved in or anything...this is still fresh wounds for both of you, so she's feeling free and all that.
But now I do have to say this... if she's totally denying contact, I would fall back altogether before she starts thinking you could be a threat to her-you feel me?
You will be OK...from the looks of it you are still very young so you will go through many women in this lifetime...ENJOY THEM!
Hope this helps my friend...do a little praying and self meditation too...prayer helps me the most.
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