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30-35,
*untie Mandy
writes:Basically there's this guy in my life, we're always textina each other an have recently started spending hours talking to each other on the phone. The problem with this is that he already has a girlfriend, but from reading in between the lines his relationship with his girlfriend is on the rocks, I know it's jealous of me to want him to break up with her but is it really wrong? I'm really confused because at times he sends me mixed feelings and even asks me to help him with his relationship with his girlfriend. How Im a suppose to deal with this? Every time I try to move on something always happens and it leaves me confused, angry and jealous How should I deal with this?
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (2 August 2008):
 I would side-step giving him the help he asks for because anything you say, whether you are aware of it or not, will be biased by your own interest in this guy. Just try and fob him off; say something like 'well I wouldn't really know' and try and change the topic quickly to something that will hold his attention/take his mind off of his current problems.
It's not wrong as such to want them to split-up but I would avoid doing anything that helps bring that about because if you did the new relationship (assuming you did get together)would be soured by the guilt that you feel. It may well be counterproductive too if you are too obvious and you may well drive him away and draw them closer together again. If, as you say, things are rocky between them then nature will take it's course in due time and you can support him through the break-up and may well have a shot at being with him yourself. Good luck. :)
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