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anonymous
writes:Me and my girlfriend of 9months went to have sex for the first time after a long night together, but it didn't really work. We started very slowly as i know she was nervous but as i went to enter her i had to push reasonably hard (she is quite tight) i only got partially inside her and she said it hurt way to much and responded by pushing my waist away with her legs as soon as i entered her, she said she couldn't help it and we tried again but only with the same outcome of her pushing me back in pain and wanting to stop. Did i do something wrong? Should i have tried to carry on through the pain even if she said it hurt and pushed me back? And the fact that her cherry poped doing it, do you think she will think back and think it was a waste losing it like that? Also do you think this will make her even more worried to try it again?Pleas Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 You need to have plenty of foreplay before actual intercourse in order to warm her up a little. She's been much to nervous and tense. Set the mood with nice soft music and maybe candlelight so she can totally relax.
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): Original Poster Here - I know we both didnt really count it as having sex or her losing her virginity because well it didnt really happy and was was absolutely no enjoyment involved. But the thing im worrying about is that will she see it as a big thing that her cherry poped doing this and will it put her off trying again because it hurt her so much as all she kept doing after was apologizing. Thanks for the Reply by the way.
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reader, buddhistfriend  +, writes (11 April 2010):
Relax, it is fine. You showed her respect.Just be patient. Next time push a little more, etc..Eventually it will be ok. It is your emotions and depth that will matter to her years later, even though she may not appreciate it now. Just be the honorable man.
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