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writes:I've been married to a kind,patient and gentle man for 9 years. We've had problems in the past with my being negative and having outbursts regarding things that I can't change i.e.traffic, weather, etc. I just quit my job after bering frustrated for several months. He just took a job 2000 miles away and when I called/told him that I had quit, he reacted calmly by saying that we cannot do on the extravagent vacation that were planning on just last wk. I started yelling and crying saying that we deserved this vacation and the I'll get a job easily. I yelled for him to leave me alone for awhile. Two day s later, he called and said that he was done and is filing for a separation. Is there anything that I can do to save my marriage? I started counseled and have written him a long letter, but he isn't changing his mind. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): I am sorry to hear that you are having this issue. There are far too many times in our life that we find out to late. Being on your husbands end there is a breaking point. It just gets to the point where your temper and outbursts don't matter anymore. I am afraid the only way to get him back is to let him go. Full fill your promise to change not only for him but for you as well. and maybe in the future he will see that you did follow through with your promise. and maybe then he will be willing to try again.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 October 2009):
Oh dear, I'm sorry. Yes, your temper may have ended this. (no offence there). I suggest you really try to get him to come to counselling with you. You have to run around like mad to try and get him to go to counselling, because he will be feeling very unappreciated, misunderstood and unwanted. However, if he doens't, there's really nothing you can do. All the best.
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