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*arkRedhead
writes:My ex has threatened to post explicit pictures of me on the internet. I'm really worried about this. I googled myself, but other than that I don't know where to look to see if he followed through on the threat. Help! Where/ How can I look, and how do I take them down if I find them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): I'm completely empathetic to your situation. My ex has done the same thing and I don't know where to look. He made the threat and has gone back and forth with it, so I'm an emotional wreck over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Oh yeah I keep forgetting the police exist...
Research your legal options. I should've thought about that earlier...
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reader, Khandi +, writes (11 July 2008):
 since he is threatning you about him posting them you should do the research for your state and find out what you can do and then let him know that if these pics are posted, and if he gives them out he is the only one with them so them getting out can only come from him, he needs to know that you will press charges against him, but like the other person said the only one that is rteally going to care are the people close to you and you can also email him the link i sent you about the wisconsin teen that may make him want to fall back. now if these pics he took of you are of you while you are asleep, or intoxicated you may have a case against him, if a guy can get introuble for sex with a woman with out her consent while she is drunk ( non Consentual) am sure there is something that can be done about being incoehrent/ intoxicated/ sleep and having explicit photos taken.
http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/years/2008/0521081myspace1.html
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reader, DarkRedhead +, writes (10 July 2008):
DarkRedhead is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you
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reader, DarkRedhead +, writes (10 July 2008):
DarkRedhead is verified as being by the original poster of the questionawesome! i'm happy for you.
do you know if there's something like that in the US? what's it called in Canada?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): *Hugglie Time!!*
Seriously, don't worry about it.
Can you do something about them being shown. No?! Then don't worry about it because theres nothing you can do to stop it happening. Just prepare for it. Talk to friends about it if you can.
You can do something about it! Then do it. If you can't go through with it then you can't do it.
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reader, DarkRedhead +, writes (10 July 2008):
DarkRedhead is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbelieve me, i figured out the "no naughty pictures" lesson. i didn't want to have them taken in the first place. he snuck them, and i was PO'd.
thanks you guys. i'll try that stuff. i feel a little better now
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Thanks ChiRaven, now I am worried too. What have I done that somebody might find.... stuff and bother....Oh woe is me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Thanks ChiRaven, now I am worried too. What have I done that somebody might find.... stuff and bother....Oh woe is me...
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (10 July 2008):
 First, keep an eye on any social networking sites (Facebook, MySpace, etc.) that he has. Not that he'll likely post there, but he might use them to point to pictures if he does put them up somewhere else. That would be particularly effective in getting the word out among your mutual friends.
Second, the Google thing is good, but don't ignore the other search engines (Yahoo, Answers.com, etc.) since they use different search algorithms and might find something that Google misses.
Finally, keep your ear to the ground. If he does post, it's not going to be secret too long, and although you shouldn't be ASKING your friends about it, somebody is sure to point it out to you as soon as possible.
As to what you can do, if the pictures are of the sort that would qualify them as "obscene" in any jurisdiction, I believe there are record keeping requirements placed on the web sites that store the pictures. Basically they have to have records to prove that the people pictured are 18 or over. Even if you ARE over 18, they don't have documentation to prove it. So there are probably legal ways to get the pictures taken down.
Moral of the story: NEVER let yourself be photographed in a way that you would not want to see posted on the internet with your name next to it, because there's a chance that something like that will happen. We live in a very transparent world these days. It's not like it was five years ago.
And be careful what you say on-line, too, because it will still be around on SOMEBODY'S hard drive in 15 or 20 years and might come back to haunt you. I've found stuff I posted back in 1993 still floating around out there, so please don't think I'm exaggerating!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): I don't know where you can look but why has he just threatened this?! What does he want in return?!
Talk to your friends about this. If everyone slowly comes onto him he'll dig a hole and stay there.
To be fair, the only people that are going to care are those close to you, not millions of people that search the web. Obviously this still isn't good, but as I said, don't worry about millions of people seeing you, because they won't care.
And as I said, talk to friends about it. Your in a extremely awkward and difficult position.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Try ask.com,and if you have accounts on these,try myspace and facebook.I'm sorry i dont know of any other websites you could look at.
I know on myspace and facebook, you can report these kind of photos.
My advice would be to not have explicit photos taken in the first place.I'm sorry your ex has made this threat,i hope he hasnt posted them,and if he has,i hope you manage to find them and get the taken off.Good luck.
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